Can I rant about husband not helping tidy???

[Milliemoons]

It’s been done to death I know but I need a sympathetic ear. We have company due later. Dd3 is playing nicely and dd7mo is asleep. Perfect chance to rip through the house to get it in order after Xmas chaos. What does husband do? Disappear to the fuxking garage. When I ask for help scrubbing toilets and folding laundry he can’t because apparently it “needs” organising and now is his only opportunity.

AHHHHHHHGGH. Guess I’ll just clean the whole house by myself then.

Yet another selfish lazy arsehole.

My late OH was the opposite - he could not stop tidying - it drove me nuts!
I once put out all the equipment/ingredients to begin making a cake. I went to the toilet and came back to find it all tidied up!

Be careful what you wish for!! 😀

That’s me right now, with the stress of company later. If it doesn’t have a home it’s going in the bin 😅

You are being unreasonable by using the word “helping”. He shouldn’t be helping you he should be doing his share rather than expecting you to do your share and his! Sympathise though and share your frustration! It’s laziness hiding behind incompetance.

This is quite common oddly. Someone has a party and the man takes it on himself to put CDs into alphabetical order, or organise the loft or other space that guests aren't coming into.

I'd be going out and telling him unless he's hosting in the garage, he can get his arse in the house.

This isn't 'helping', it is doing his share. I'm not surprised he doesn't see it as his job if you frame it this way.

He needs to be in the sane page as you - ask why the garage is more important than the house at this moment in time?

Maybe you're a neat freak and cleaning things that are already clean (in his view), or maybe his new bike arrives tomorrow and he needs somewhere to put it. A conversation without accusation will help.

Next time just say - you do the vaccuming and I'll do the kitchen and bathroom.