I found a pregnancy test in my DSs gfs flat

[Crutie]

My DS is 28, he has been with his girlfriend for a bit over a year. They are away to her family abroad, they asked if I would mind checking in on her flat. I went today as I was in the area for a hair appointment. Collected up parcels left by the door or at neighbours, checked all was well then nipped into the bathroom. In the bathroom when I was washing my hands I realised there was a pregnancy test, positive left by the sink.
The thing is we met up with them before their flight (but after they left home for the airport) and his girlfriend was drinking.

I don’t know what to make of this, surely they’d have known I was going to be there and possibly using the bathroom.

Im tempted to message my son and let him know I’ve seen it? But then what if she has decided to terminate, or it’s from a friend who was over or some other personal reason that’s nothing to do with me?

Do I just mind my business? Or would it be okay for me to mention it.

Of course you can't ask them about it, what are you thinking?! If there is anything to tell you, they will do it when they are good and ready

Come on, you know you can't mention seeing it. If there's something to tell, then you'll find out when they're ready to tell you.

In all likelihood, it was negative and looks positive due to the time that's gone by since it was used. Or it's an ovulation test.

Absolutely do nothing, if she was drinking it’s likely she doesn’t want to go on with the pregnancy. It could even be a friends test.

Stay quiet.
You'll know one way or another in 9 months time

My GP spent ages telling me all the tricks for looking like in was drinking when out in early pregnancy. I didn't really bother as I wasn't a big drinker anyway but lots of people will just pretend to drink

Jesus, obviously don’t say anything. Shocked you even have to ask!!

Please don't say anything OP - you say they've only been together a year, is he living with her full time because that's not a long time. Please just try forget about it. If my MIL accidentally saw a positive test I'd feel awkward because I would plan to have an abortion. I don't think your feelings about the whole thing will help her x

I thought you were going to say he was under 18. Please do not say a word. You will damage your relationship with them both.

you need to practice withholding judgement. If you are you be a grandparent it is incredibly important.

her drinking is none of your business. She could’ve faked it (eg. Said it was alcoholic when not) or is panicking and not thinking. Or just had a sip.

or they’re playing a joke on you?

He isn't 15! Agree with other posters, it would be absolute madness to say anything to your 28! year old son.

The Op says she went to the bathroom and saw it, it had been left out. How is that ‘snooping’?? And how is she ‘spreading rumours’? Did you read the same OP as me?!

YABU

If they want you to know they’ll tell you.

Pretend you’ve not seen it.

I’d say it to him.
I’m not from the UK though.
Cultural differences maybe?

It's snooping because stuff in other people's bathrooms is private. And now she's planning on wanting to tell people about what she saw.

Just because she wasn't going round with a magnifying glass doesn't mean you're not looking at things that don't concern her. To me that's snooping.

Surely it has to have the presence of hCG to show positive, which is only present in pregnancy?

It was on the sink, she says. How on earth is she supposed to not see that? And planning on telling people? You mean potentially asking her son, which she has been told absolutely not to do? Your idea of telling ‘people’ and spreading rumours is different to mine. How can she ‘spread a rumour’ about seeing a pregnancy test when it was sitting on the sink? I very much doubt she’s now going to mention a word.

I would just be mortified if I was the owner of the test. It's not about whether she saw it, it's just obvious she needs to ignore it. Otherwise it is just turning it into gossip.

I'm glad if she does nothing about it as advised.

She may have had a termination, this is absolutely nothing to do with you

It's a shame you've seen it. One more thing to think about😩

You can't say anything, though. You'd be seen as interfering.

Perhaps it’s a setup because the DS doesn’t trust OP to not nose around while they’re away?
🤔

Could be an ovulation test as some do look very much like pregnancy tests.

Yes and I have UTI test sticks that look like cheap pregnancy tests. Just a stick with coloured lines on it.

Anyway, regardless, op needs to keep this to herself for all the many reasons already mentioned

It's absolutely nothing to do with you. Do nothing, say nothing.

If they're having a baby, then they'll tell you in due course. If they're not, then you never need to know whether she had a termination or it was a friend's or whatever the hell else.

It's snooping because stuff in other people's bathrooms is private

Yawn - the "special" MN eyes strike again.

If you are washing your hands and there is an item left on display on the side of the basin, how do you NOT see it? It's not like OP went rooting through the bins or bedside drawers.

Maybe see an optician.

I have access to my eldest sons home. He often works away and will ask if I can pop round.
I have accidentally seen things not for my eyes not because im snooping but because he forgets what he's left out. I tell him now to make sure anything you dont your mother to know is pur away!l 😆
I never mention what ive seen because its absolutely nothing to do with me. Same for you Op.

Jesus, I can’t believe anyone would think that it would be acceptable to mention this to him.

Was it on the sink though op? 🤔