A pal has been with their partner for two years. This is an old school pal I see maybe a couple of times a year. We speak on the phone around once a month. He often shares how his partner is annoying him, how he finds her unreasonable. How he wants to give it time but he seems to have been unhappy for over a year. I’ve not met her. They don’t live together and both have children around the same age too. Over Xmas shared he went out with fiends and met someone and had a one night stand. He will be splitting up with his partner I believe after NYE. He mentioned he in some ways wanted an argument caused by her to be the trigger.
He’s a good bloke but AIBU to be upset by this. I really find it hard when someone wants to leave but doesn’t do the heavy lifting and hopes for an argument to lessen the load of having that conversation. I feel awful for his partner no matter how unreasonable she may be too. does happen I know, but feel a bit disappointed in my pal.