AIBU to feel like I barely have any mum friends who relate to my life?

[HumbleTalkativeMum]

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately… how many mum friends do we actually have who truly relate to our day‑to‑day life?

For me, I’ve only got one friend with a child, and another friend who has MS — and that’s really my whole circle. I’m a mum of three (5, 3 and 1), and I’d really love to meet new mum friends this year. People I can chat to on a high day or a low day, without judgement or pressure.

How many friends do you have who genuinely understand your situation? And are you looking to make new connections too?

I’d love to hear from others in the same boat.

I’m wondering if this is just modern motherhood or if I’m missing something.

i’m in exactly the same boat - I have one friend who’s child has grown up, and I’m starting again at 40! Feel free to message me
if you’d like a WhatsApp buddy :)

Didn’t you post the exact same thing previously, but with the emphasis on how parents with partners didn’t ‘get’ what it was like being a lone parent?

I’m so glad my DS is older now so I don’t need to suffer the mum friends obsession. I can remember this stage where you feel compelled to go on school mum meet ups which basically seemed a replay of the the school playground with popular mum having people vying to be her best mate, lots of bitchiness, slagging off their husbands, slagging off mums who hadn’t made the evening talking about utter drivel like reality tv, fashion, celebs.fucking hell it was depressing!!! The “mum friends” I have are people I actually like, people I have things in common with who I would be friends with anyway who just so happen to be mums.

The expectation we should be friends with people just because we happen to have given birth at around the same time is bizarre.

My best advice is, find friends for you, make time for you, some of these people will have kids.

Many of my good mates are men, many don’t have kids..no reality tv, bitchiness or celeb culture involved

I really didn’t realise my posts were coming across strangely — that honestly wasn’t my intention at all.
I do have a disability that affects the way I communicate, and sometimes I repeat myself or reuse parts of what I’ve written because it helps me stay clear and consistent. I also post across different topics because I’m trying to hear from a range of people, not because I’m trying to be odd or misleading. I’m just a mum trying to find connection, not doing anything wrong.

I understand that online spaces can make people cautious, but I’m a real person with three young children, and I’m just trying to reach out in the only ways I know how. If anything I’ve written has come across the wrong way, that genuinely wasn’t my intention.

I appreciate the people who responded kindly — it means a lot when you’re trying to build a bit of community in a world that can feel quite isolating.

WTF? I’m not surprised you’re struggling OP. That is if you’re a real person. Sharing your number with randomers on the internet? Ridiculous carry on.