Teenage daughter wants to stay alone on new year

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DD is 16 nearly 17, we have been invited to a party for new year at a friends which her younger siblings are coming to. DD usually has plans with her friends but this year does not, i have invited her out with us but she has said no and I have said we will just stay in and have friends over to ours instead so she isn’t alone but she is saying she doesn’t want to go out and she doesn’t want us in. If we stayed in she would just sit in her room all night anyway and probably come down to see in the new year and go back back up to her room.

AIBU to go out? She keeps saying it’s no different to any other night we go out and leave her in but I feel like I don’t want to leave her on her own even though we have already made plans and she won’t see us anyway?

New Year means absolute nothing to a lot of people. It can actually be a very upsetting time.

I have never understood the attraction of celebrating the tick of a clock, and I was very relieved when we finally stopped doing anything as family and treated it as a normal day.

Your daughter has just realised it's a completely contrived celebration ahead of being an adult and good luck to her I say!

So let her. She’s almost 17 and wants to chill. I am also debating staying home this year because I can’t be arsed with drunk people and socialising.

If you feel bad maybe put together a little pack for her to enjoy - chocolates, a face mask, a party popper, a bath bomb. She can have a pamper night in.

My daughter is 17, and is choosing to spend NYE at her dad's house because he's out! 😂 My DH and I will be home all night. She'd much rather have the house to herself. I think I your daughter has said exactly what she wants so you do your thing and leave her to it. Kids that age bloody love being home alone ☺️ (as long as you're sure she's not having a party... 😬)

Leave her alone!

She’ll enjoy having the house to herself, as long as you don’t think she is depressed, she’ll be fine.

It would have been cringe city to have to spend partying with my mum at 17, I don't celebrate new year on dec 31st anyway.
My new year is oct 31st as I'm a pagan and don't want to celebrate halloween either.

She's told you what she wants to do. It happens to work out well with what you want to do.

Where's the problem?

Thanks everyone, didn’t know if I was just overthinking it and if it would be sly to leave on her own and just wanted an extra opinion, I like the idea of getting some snacks/leave money for a takeaway and do her a mini pamper pack, she actually loves being in the house by herself so feel better about it