Picking up items in will

[Chickencuddle]

I have wrote on here before about my relationship with my family. Estranged from most of them. Etc.
My grandmother who I was in contact with recently passed away and she left me some jewellery in her will.
I live in Northern Ireland and the rest of my family lives in england. My uncle messaged asking me to get someone to pick up the jewellery.
I asked if I could pick up a certain weekend and he agreed. I booked flights. It is next qeekend and I am now messaging asking for times. I originally asked if I could pick up the thursday evening after we land. He said he was busy. I asked if we could come get it saturday morning. He said he was playing golf. I have now messaged asking when suits him and he hasn't replied.
I am worried as we booked these flights especially to pick up the jewellery and we really cant afford to come over again. He was not very nice to me when my grandma was dying and after. So I feel like he is being difficult.
Aibu?

Just tell him to leave it with the solicitors and you’ll collect it from there.

Great plan. And contact the solicitors yourself so they are expecting the Uncle to drop off the jewellery. Sounds like he is an arsehole.

Jyst messaged him saying that. None of my messages are being delivered now. Not sure who the solicitors even are.

@Chickencuddle is that the only number or contact you've got? Where is he based?

Yes only number i have. He is in england. North West.

Is there another family member close to
him you could contact t?

No not really. Rubbish situation

Think you will have to turn up at his house when you land and take it from there. Hopefully he’d just hand it over to get rid of you. Good luck in such an awkward situation.

What about sending a recorded delivery letter to him OP to confirm the time you will be at his house to pick up the items ? I would send the letter recorded delivery next day too (as otherwise it just means it will be signed for but not what day the letter will get there).

I am in the north west, happy to also post your letter through his door if it's sort of in my area if that's any help ?

Could it be a police thing?

Do you have any other relations contact details?

If not....
Just turn up at his house.
You are there for days and have one job Prioritise it...!

He might be golfing Saturday but he isn't golfing at 6am.
Turn up early or late when he is going to be in.

Knock loudly but be smiley, polite and verbally enthusiastic.
Imagine you are Teflon 😁

Good luck!!!

I think ill wait and see if he gets any messages and replies will give it a day or two and then I can maybe speak to my cousin. Thing is she isnt on that side of the family so doesnt really have contact with them..but more than me probably. Dont want to bring her into it and also dont want to blow my cover that im in contact with her and my aunt as they think im estranged from everyone. If that makes sense. She has offered to help kn any way she can in the past. But she has enough on without drama.

Ask your cousin if a friend of theirs, unknown to your uncle, can collect on your behalf ahead of you arriving for the weekend.

My cousin doesnt live nearby though. Just thought she might be able to nudge him. She lives down south

Ask him to leave with solicitor so you can collect on Friday

Who is the executor?

No idea. Could be him?

He's blocked you

Sent him another message saying alternatively he can leave at the solicitors and I can pick it up. He messaged back saying he would speak to them and let me know. O googled times they were open and asked for it to be there by next thursday if he is choosing that option as closed at the weekend. Feel like I have to cover all bases as he seems to be difficult for the sake of it. But maybe not hard to know.

He's just being difficult, no reason he can't leave the items at the solicitors with a weeks notice !

The solicitors might not be open until Monday or might have skeleton staff until then, I would ring them and email them if no joy on the phone to book an appointment to collect items which are being left with them for you to collect, as per the will. Explain that you are flying over hence needing appointment date and time. Then also contact them on the Wednesday to confirm the items are there ready

Messaged him again asking if he had contacted them. No reply. Will phone solicitors friday thank you

Oh. Hes just messaged me back: "as I have said I will let you know if I hear anything.."
So no idea what that means has he contacted them and waiting for them to message back. Also hes obviously missed at me asking.

I really hate it when someone who has to do one tiny small thing doesn’t do it, after you’ve put in 99% of the work, or enjoys holding onto some transient power like this. Keep in contact with the solicitor, they surely will want you to get the jewelry so that their obligations regarding it are discharged. I hope you can make an appointment with them, and that they call the uncle about it…and then if you turn up and the stuff is not there, he’s now looking bad in their eyes. What a passive aggressive jerk.

Do you think I should phone them or is that overstepping?

Yes contact the solicitor.
You are travelling to collect your property, it is not unreasonable.
Keep careful notes of all efforts to contact your uncle and solicitors.
Email them too.
Should you need to make a complain, a paper trail is very useful.