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to feel a flash or irritation everytime I read "LET DH DO IT" on her? I always imagine its said in a shrieky way as well

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MamaG · 11/06/2008 17:09

I mean

OP - "I don't know what to buy FIL for his birthday"

Reply - "Its not YOUR father, let DH do it"


OP - "DH's boss is coming to dinner, what shall i make?"

Reply - "its not your boss, you didn't invite them, let DH cook and worry about it"


Can it not just be accepted that sometimes YOU JUST WANT TO COOK/BUY THE PRESENT etc?

I do most of the housework in our house, DH does most of the DIY. Why? I farking HATE doing DIY and decorating but housework doesn't bother me - plus I work part time and he works full time so why would I wait wiht a floor that needs vaccuuming, when the DC are outsie playing and I've put dinner on? Why CAN'T I JUST GET THE DYSON OUT - it doesn't mean I'm a little wifey IT JUST WORKS IN MY FAMILY

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StealthPolarBear · 11/06/2008 17:11

i agree - do what works for you as a family and sod the rest. I do most of the housework, DH does most of the 'manly' stuff If he thinks the floor needs hoovering or whatever he doesn't add it to my to do list though, he just does it!

MamaG · 11/06/2008 17:12

Yes, when DH worked part time as well, we shared the childcare and the housework
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VictorianSqualor · 11/06/2008 17:14

Lol, not unreasonable at all MamaG.

If DH/P is likely to be an arse and unappreciative then make him do it, but otherwise why not do it?

I'm better at choosing presents/cards/hosting dinner parties/drying DD's hair etc etc than him.

If I had a problem with my car would I have to fix it? Would I hell!¬!! He'd do it!!

StealthPolarBear · 11/06/2008 17:15

He does ocassionally order me into the kitchen to make him a sandwich. I sigh and say yes dear.

EddiBritt · 11/06/2008 17:16

You are so right.
Its called being a couple... I do all the card/gift buying or no one would get a thing.

Don't mind me not burning my bra though as they need all the help they can get these days

MamaG · 11/06/2008 17:17

Disclaimer: I only burned my greying worn-to-a-cobweb bra, not any of my good ones

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PortBlacksandResident · 11/06/2008 17:19

MamaG - what are you doing starting this thread?

Let DH bloody do it .

MamaG · 11/06/2008 17:19


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mistypeaks · 11/06/2008 17:22

MamaG - I agree with you.
I do 90% of the cooking so if FIL/MIL were coming round (which they frequently do) and occasionally I like some inspiration for what to serve so I'd be a little miffed at the
"What do I serve PILS for dinner"
"They're his parents let him cook"
" erm OK but they don't really like Chilli (his best dish) I'm not inviting them around for a full breakfast (his other good dish) and erm I don't really want to serve up anything else which is likely to be burnt/undercooked
I will add as well. Once the meal is decided upon he helps with prep (veg peeling and keeping DDs out of my way and then washes up afterwards)
I also do all the ironing in our house (he would do it if I wanted him to, but he takes longer) So if he requires a particular shirt, he asks and I do. Likewise if I need something out of the loft I ask and he does.

VictorianSqualor · 11/06/2008 17:28

Exactly mistypeaks, surely the point of a partnership is that you are partners and if there is a job that needs doing it's easier and quicker that the person best at it does it!

MamaG · 11/06/2008 17:29

oh God that reminds me, on an earlier thread today I put somehting along the lines of "if your DH wants a shirt, show him the iron" but I have a phobia of irons

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MaureenMLove · 11/06/2008 17:32

Its like that here too. Although, I'm a bugger for attempting DIY, getting it wrong and being told off!

I do most of the household jobs, including putting the bins out and cutting the grass. DH does probably 85% of the cooking though. It works for us. There are no rights and wrongs and I can't stand the 'it should be 50/50' threads.

ChicaLovesBranstonPickle · 11/06/2008 17:34

lol. I agree. We have divided the housework up so that we have the jobs we like most or are best at, and also to reflect our different work timetables - I am out of work in the day time when shops are open so can actually make purchases! DH leaves the house at 8 and is lucky to get in before 8.30pm.

. So I do the cooking and meal planning, laundry (including ironing) and DH does washing up and deep cleaning. Either of us might pick up the hoover if we see a

ChicaLovesBranstonPickle · 11/06/2008 17:34

need .

mistypeaks · 11/06/2008 17:35

It does depend. Like VS said earlier if he was being an arse I would show him the iron (in more ways than one) He has before now suddenly remembered he needs a particular shirt with approx 5 mins to go. I have wasted 3 of these 5 minutes bollocking him about being crap and 2 minutes hastily ironing said shirt. With the stern warning that it wouldn't happen again.
I think some people try to find closet sexism whereever they can.
DH happens to be better at cutting the girls fingernails/toenails so he does it. I happen to be quite good at sorting out electrical items (except the damn DVD player and I-pod - I have another thread at the moment and am lost without DH to help me). However on the whole our jobs round the house just seem to fall into the traditional ones. Hey Ho I'm happy with my lot, blow anyone that dares to tell me what to tell my DH to do!!

VictorianSqualor · 11/06/2008 17:35

Maureen, I do believe it should be 50/50 but that to me just means responsibilities, not housework.

DP's responsibilities are work, money, bills, car stuff weekend morning childcare.
Mine are housework, most cooking, day-to-day childcare.
It works for us, and it's not written in stone so we can do each others 'jobs', and at times do.

MaureenMLove · 11/06/2008 17:40

No, that's far enough. If it works for you, in your relationship, then its no one elses business. I expect a lot of people would find it odd that my DH goes out every Friday night and Saturday afternoon, but I like it! Peace and quiet to MN - why would I want him here!

VictorianSqualor · 11/06/2008 17:42

I have been known to tell DP to go out so I can enjoy a night with my virtual friends
Or even just watch TV without him laying on the sofa!

MamaG · 11/06/2008 17:44

I don't find that odd Mo, I practically usher DH out of the doorwith one hand and log on with the other

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ComeOVeneer · 11/06/2008 17:45

I echo OP's sentiments.

I would be the first to complain if dh was a lazy slob and expected me to wait on him hand and foot, but as long as he pulls his weight, I am more than happy to do things for him, and he for me.

ComeOVeneer · 11/06/2008 17:46

Although I did read the thread title as people saying to let dh do a particular something to/on her so clicked to satisfy my curiosity

MamaG · 11/06/2008 17:47

LOL I noticed that typo and it made me giggle

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mistypeaks · 11/06/2008 17:55

I missed an accidental double entendre . . .

mistypeaks · 11/06/2008 17:56

Ahhhh PSML.

BoyzntheShire · 11/06/2008 17:58

ooh see, im the other way round; dont mind DIY, cant STAND housework.

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