AIBU with Christmas present DH got me?

[StressedCat]

I’ve a dilemma from Christmas. I’m always one for surprises in terms of presents but lately DH has been asking for ideas for what to get me. At first I told him I wasn’t sure, I’d have a think. Later I gave him a couple of suggestions and the reasons behind them (in this instance, the time I had to grate lots of veg and how he had helped me with a manual grater) so he had a clearer idea. Kitchen utensils and appliances and practical things, but I’m quite content with presents like that. When Christmas came, what he got me wasn’t fulfilling the remit I explained (I wanted a food processor that grates and chops but this was just a “chopper”). I was grateful, said it looked cool and would be very useful and I was studying it to see if extra parts could be bought to make it into a grater (no, they couldn’t be). He went off at me that I had never told him about it needing to grate, and to get that he would have had to spend thousands (I’m not running a restaurant, I only want a basic one). I know I clearly stated the purpose I wanted it to fulfill and the reasons behind it. But he makes me feel like I’m in the wrong, like it’s my fault. AIBU to think that if he asked me for what I wanted and I explained, that he would then actually get what I need? How should I react?

Shove his knob in the chopper..
He is a sulky git..

I’d be telling him where to stick his “chopper!” What’s the matter with some of these horrible, unfeeling, selfish men?

Yanbu. Sounds like he was just lazy and didn't look properly, bought the first thing he saw or something. There are plenty of options that can grate without costing thousands.

In how many other ways does he ignore you and then make it all your fault? I don't know about putting his knob in the chopper, it sounds like he's a knob all the way through.

Personally, I always think when you suggest a specific type of gift, it’s always wiser to give very precise details of the item whether it’s a scarf, a pair of ear-rings or in your case a food-processor - for that, I’d have specified the brand and exact model.

"He would have had to spend thousands"

Is he always this dramatic and stupid?

He was very unreasonable in his reaction so I suspect it’s his fault - he wasn’t looking properly.

But just to be clear on the situation in you answer have you used these two words “ food processor” - yes or no?

Your advice to him wasn’t clear.
“Later I gave him a couple of suggestions and the reasons behind them (in this instance, the time I had to grate lots of veg and how he had helped me with a manual grater) so he had a clearer idea.”

So to me, I’d think you don’t need a grater as you’ve just thanked him for the manual grater he got you & used before..

So he got a chopper. Still a nice present.

I know you posted “(I wanted a food processor that grates and chops..)” but did you actually say this to him?

What a moron.
You have my sympathy.

Why didn't you say 'i want a food processor with a grater'. He's not mind reader

I think he reacted badly, but I don't think you were grateful either. I don't know if I would have got from your description that the grater was essential to the thing either.

If I bought someone a gift genuinely thinking I'd met the anecdote of a brief and they studied it looking for more I would probably be rolling my eyes too. If you need a very precise thing then you need to give very precise information. Just say thank you and get an electric grater?

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