Don’t push me!

[Rainfordaze]

Aibu to be fed up of Dh saying this to 7 year old when he’s telling her not to do something and she’s not listening/being rude back?

I think it depends what she is doing. Surely it's a warning to say like don't make me angry? I've heard many a parent say something of this ilk.

Yes but it sounds awful

an adult would respond with “or what?”. I’m interested in what his response would be. It’s a veiled threat of something but it’s not clear what.

Don’t push your luck was the threat I used to receive as a child. His sounds similar.

I wonder if he’s told her the consequences if she does push him too far ?

But it's better than the old school approach of a smacked backside. He's telling here not to push buttons. That there will be consequences to being rude.

How would you prefer that he respond when she's being rude/not listening?

That's a weird, threatening thing to say to a 7yr old.

I say firmly, to my dog, don't push me, you wait, when she's desperate to boing ahead of me. Namely, don't barge/shove me out of the way.

To say something like that to a child?? That's a thing a bloke squaring up in the pub would say to another, probably equally drunk, would say. A child would not understand, they just understand pushing like my dog understands pushing.

That is so awful. You can't let that carry on.

I'd ask him to reconsider his words perhaps. Push him to do what? It suggests/sounds more threatening than he might mean

I don't see the issue its significantly better then the parent who scream at their children shut the fuck up the little bastard. I often say you're pushing your luck

What do you say to her to stop her rude behaviour?
Is it effective or does she ignore you?

I can see why you don’t like it: it’s threatening and a very adult sort of response. Not something you’d normally say to a child.

Can you use a calm moment to suggest some alternative; more authoritative and less aggressive options?

He also needs to be more specific to get the result he wants - it’s very vague:

”Don’t talk back I need you to listen to me”
”I’ve asked you to do xyz please do it now”
”Get down from the sofa”
”That’s very rude; don’t talk to me like that”

Just saying don’t push me doesn’t actually tell her what he wants to happen!

Equally a more specific threat of an actual consequence might get a quicker result

It sounds threatening to me.