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MIL

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DenimPombear92 · 28/12/2025 16:51

My partner and I had our parents and my aunt over for my birthday. During the time everyone was getting along and having a drink
When my MIL has too much drink she tends to start arguments or cause trouble.

My aunt and I have had a troubled relationship recently but we are rebuilding it. My MIL took it upon her self to tell my aunt her opinion on the situation and told her she should be doing more no ifs no buts and told her how upset I've been
Bare in mind that I told my MIL this info in confidence and told her not to repeat it. She then in the same conversation told me everything I'm doing wrong as a parent and how I need to change my ways. My partner told her to stay out of mine and my aunt's problems but said she was in her right to tell what she thought about my parenting. I don't agree and my partner and I have had a big argument about it as I can't not be annoyed about the situation. He said its not all his mums fault other people done stuff wrong to and told me to leave the room he was in as we were just going to argue. I feel really hurt by this and can't seem to shake off being annoyed. Am I being dramatic or should I be annoyed ?

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SweeetFannyAdams · 28/12/2025 16:55

The title of the thread should be 'Partner' not 'MIL'.

If he thinks his mum is in the right to pull you up on your parenting and that you should leave the room when he tells you to, he's very much the problem here.

Missmarplesknittingbuddy · 28/12/2025 16:57

Sounds like you all need to step away from the wine .

DenimPombear92 · 28/12/2025 17:41

Not all. Myself and my partner were not drinking...

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DaisyChain505 · 28/12/2025 17:43

Your partner should be telling anyone who’s vocally slating your parenting to do one even if he does agree he should be bringing up things he sees as an issue himself.

To everyone else you’re a united front and him letting his mother know it’s ok for her to speak to you like this just leaves the door open for it to happen again and again.

MCF86 · 28/12/2025 17:44

DenimPombear92 · 28/12/2025 17:41

Not all. Myself and my partner were not drinking...

he was sober and still managed to be the worst of everyone?

MCF86 · 28/12/2025 17:47

But also, dont slag people off to someone they are likely to socialise and drink with. That was silly.
If my DIL had been upset about the way they were treated by a family member I'd find it very difficult to sit and be nice to them. I'd manage, but you already knew MIL is argumentative. She shouldn't have said anything but at the same time how are you surprised she did?

Endofyear · 28/12/2025 18:21

Don't confide private family business to your MIL when you know she's got a loose tongue and is argumentative when drunk. Or keep her separate from your family.

What exactly was she criticising about your parenting?

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