Can’t be bothered meeting

[Metalandbiscuit]

I have a group of friends I have known since university. We all get on well. Amongst us there are subgroups of besties which I am comfortable with and not bothered to be in one of these subgroups as my best friend isn’t in the main group. One of our members is divorced but has a long term boyfriend. The rest of us are all happily married with kids and grandkids. The divorced friend is always arranging coffee mornings and I’ve got to the stage where I just can’t be bothered. For me, meeting up maybe every 6 weeks is enough. Every two weeks is just too much for me. I suppose I’m just happy to be alone with my husband most of the time. I can’t think of a way to get out of these too regular meetings. I reckon I’m just antisocial. Any ideas?

From my experience I would go to anything i didn’t want to

“Can’t make this one, see you at the next one” - if you only want to meet up every six weeks, just do that. Let your friends know you’re happy for them to meet without you.

“Please go ahead without me on this one. I’ll try to make the next one tho so keep me in the loop” 🤷‍♀️

Hey. I can’t meet every couple of weekends as I’m often booked up and have stuff on with Pete, but keep me in the loop and I’ll definitely be there when you meet end of Jan.

I have got a couple of friends who see each other all the time - pretty much everyday. Way too intense for me so l pick and choose when l join them. No drama

Wouldn’t go **

Just say you can’t make whichever date you don’t want to go to.

Might work better to tell them that you're winding down from frequent socialising because you're too busy/tired, but would love to join them every six weeks or so if they are happy with that. It's quite annoying to have a member of a small friendship group that meets regularly, repeatedly saying 'go ahead without me this time but keep me in the loop', which pretty much means 'I'll come along when and if I feel like it'.

If other people are also feeling it's too much, you provide an opening for them to suggest cutting down on the number of meetings.

People seem to have lost the power of speech on many of these threads. Just say no thanks OP it is really not that difficult or worth the angst.

I can’t think of a way to get out of these too regular meetings

I can. "Ladies, meeting fortnightly is too frequent for me. I will aim to see you once a month instead but do go ahead and meet without me"