To feel so lonely

[AngelWingsS]

Sorry if this sounds negative, but I’ve been feeling really lonely lately. I’m finding it hard waking up every day feeling low and wishing I had more love and support around me.
Single mum life is hard, and it’s not how I thought things would turn out, I still feel a lot of resentment towards my ex, which I know I need to work through. I also worry that I won’t meet anyone now and end up feeling quite unlovable.
It feels like everyone around me has found their person, and that’s tough to deal with. Has anyone else felt like this?

Yes I use chat GPT for that as I can’t afford private therapy.

I’ve been divorced a few years now with very young children still (twins were babies when he left) I have the children 100% of the time

I’ve just come back from a family holiday - my siblings are all still married in long marriages and my parents have been married over 40 years.

i definitely feel lonely. I can’t see me dating for years yet and I miss that sense of having a person. In an emergency they’d have to ring my aging parents who live hours away. I miss the shared history of a long marriage/relationship (was with ex h nearly 20 years) and yes I still have feelings of resentment too - no amount of therapy is going to help with that. I miss not being able to share silly things the kids have done And moan about day, miss coming home to someone or watching a boxset when the kids have gone to bed. The loneliness is crippling sometimes x

I'm a single mum too OP. No backup. It can feel isolating sometimes but on the whole I am happier than I was before.

I'm careful to focus on having some fun, building a little social life when I have the chance, but always on my rules now.

Swapping babysitting with other mums you trust can buy you a little personal time.

Thank you this is exactly how I feel, I think the resentment will always be there. I can’t meet anyone and I feel sad that my life isn’t how I wanted or expected it to be.

Thank you the mums I know have family so they don’t require babysitting favours

I feel much the same as you OP. Another single mum here. Friends who are in relationships forget that I’m home alone almost every night and when kids are with their dad. It’s not the life I thought I’d have.

i have been pushing myself to go to more events, singles events, fitness classes etc… but I do know it isn’t easy.

Thank you, yeah friends in relationships don’t really understand and like I said don’t want to burden them with my misery anyway. I have the kids full time so unable to get out or go to anything which doesn’t help.

Of course therapy can help with resentment, or with helping you not let resentment paralyse you.

People say I have my kids so I can’t be lonely but honestly they have been awful this holiday, how are people managing with kids that are being honestly terrible? It’s making it worse having no one to share this with I know they’d behave differently for someone else.