Strays?

[patooties]

Would you be offended at being added to a WhatsApp group called ^ for people who haven’t got a NYE plan? I have been invited to an open house and there’s been some sidesnide comments (via other WhatsApp messages) by some who have been added. I think it’s a nice gesture- others don’t.
Would you be insulted? YABU TO BE UPSET YANBU TO THINK IT IS QUITE NICE TO BE INCLUDED.
We already have other plans but if we didn’t would take it as a kind gesture.

I wouldn’t like it. But then I’m not a fan of endless WhatsApp groups anyway!

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I wouldn't be insulted because I have a sense of humour.

It seems like a neutral, factual title even if it’s incorrect in your case.

A WhatsApp called ‘Strays’ would be tactless. People without a NYE plan aren’t lost kittens.

Why is it funny? Creating a community or event for lonely people is lovely.

If you’re happy with it then it really doesn’t matter how other people feel.

Do you have plans? Do you want to go If not, and you do, then go and have fun. Let them be insulted if they choose to be.

It’s a title that’s clearly intended to be (slightly) funny title, and it’s a good initiative to get people together if they don’t already have a plan.

Anyone offended should get over themselves, and leave others to have fun.

I thought this was going to be about cats!

I have no plans for NYE- how do I get invited on random whatsapp groups? I'd come to a house party.

It’s a nice thought. I’d say thank you & decline because I need to be at home with my cat & have a New Year’s Day brunch lined up instead, but I’d appreciate being asked.

The name is humorous- Strays.

I wouldn’t be insulted at all!

Sort of tempted to stick my head in now to see if any of the vociferous’strays’ go (or stay at home in a grump!)

I had to read it a couple of times, but I think the WhatsApp group actually is called “Strays”.

In which case, yeah I can see why people might be a bit miffed.

it’s not that clear from your OP though, OP, so I think people are replying thinking the group is called “for ppl who don’t have NY plans”……which would have been a much better name for it.

So the group is called 'strays' and you didn't make the group, but you've got other people sending you messages privately, who are pissed off about being added to the Strays group?

Oh! Fair enough yes I see your point!

Yes - that exactly.

How rude to simply post this when someone has taken the time to rely.

It sounds to me like a failed attempt at a self-deprecating joke on the part of the hosts. You may not have had any proper invites, here is a sort of invite but it's only from us. Poorly judged, just leave it at that.

@patooties I hate people adding me to WA groups.

I think anyone getting upset about what is clearly intended as a lighthearted shorthand for those without prior plans is taking themselves far too seriously.

If they can't take it in the spirit it is meant, they could always exit the group having left a flouncing message before letting the door bang them on the arse on the way out.

I would love to be a member of such a group. However I will be home alone and sad.

I would find it funny, but I don't actually like going out for New years eve anyway.

This.

If I wanted to go out somewhere and didn't have any plans, I'd be delighted to have been added to the group.

But I'm a bit of an outlier on MN as I have been to a wedding I got a phone call about the night before, and went, and had a lovely time.
I'm also an outlier in that I read / hear the intention and kindness behind the invitation rather than looking for offence in everything like some posters on here do.