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AIBU?

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To have phoned my sister, not my Dad?

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RotiCanai · 27/12/2025 21:20

My sister is currently staying at my Dads house (went before Christmas, staying for a few days). She tends to go every year. I tend to alternate years between my Dads house and the in-laws. Both houses are a similar distance (couple of hours) from me but in opposite directions so it’s difficult to fit in going to both!

I just called my sister on her mobile to have a chat and to check when she’d be back (she lives near me and we had vague plans to catch up between Christmas and New Year).

When we were done chatting she offered to pass her phone round so I could say hello to my dad/ other relatives. This is common practice in my family. I last spoke to them on Christmas Day when I FaceTimed my dad’s phone, and he passed me round to say hi to everyone.

However, when my sister tried to pass the phone to my dad, he said that I should have phoned him if I wanted to speak to him, and that he is the one hosting so should be the one who gets phone calls?! He refused to take the phone and walked off…

It really upset me and I think it’s really weird to try and tell someone who they should or shouldn’t phone! I’d be pleased my DCs had a good relationship tbh…

Not to mention that Dad knows I’m going through a hard time and I’m now home alone (other than sleeping DC) whereas he is surrounded by family…

AIBU to think that he is in the wrong?

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RecordBreakers · 28/12/2025 00:01

Your Dad sounds very childish.

Is this unusual for him ?

OrigamiOwls · 28/12/2025 00:11

Very childish behaviour from your dad there.

Gymnopedie · 28/12/2025 00:35

How many other ways does he expect to be the centre of attention, the focus, the priority?

RotiCanai · 28/12/2025 21:26

He is a lovely dad a lot of the time, very loving, very generous… but yes, I think childish is the word at times. Unresolved issues from his own childhood I expect, was the same when I was growing up. Always had time for us, did lots of fun things, very thoughtful but zero emotional regulation and some odd ideas that are hard to shake! He has (sort of) apologised today…

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JulietSierra · 28/12/2025 22:10

I’m glad he’s apologised. Tell him how it made you feel, accept his apology and move on.

Cat1504 · 28/12/2025 22:20

Your dad sounds like a dick

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