Lack of update

[MumTeach88]

My husband went out for the day today with his friends. My 2 (agreed to) requests were:
Please let me know the plan for when you'll be back once you're there.
Don't arrive between 6:40 and 7pm or 3 year old will be so excited he won't want to go to bed.

Husband did not update plans and he has messaged me an eta which puts his at 6:50pm.

We have a 3 year old son with suspected ADHD and sensory issues. I am absolutely all for my husband going out, but I feel really frustrated now! I don't want to have a go as we both need our "me" time but AIBU to be irritated?

Message him to say do not come in until DS is in bed. Or once he comes in go straight out for a walk and leave him to sort bedtime.

Please let me know the plan for when you'll be back once you're there.
This is a bit unrealistic when friends are involved.

He likely tried to be back before 6:40pm so he could say goodnight to DS. It’s easy for the sat nav to add on minutes as you go what with traffic and weather and other road delays.

Is it really that important that DS has to go to bed not seeing his dad? If dad arrived at 6:30- that is surely just as exciting at 6:50? Could not DS go to bed a half hour later than usual?

If I was you, I’d just let him have a night out. Imagine deciding what time you are going home when you get there! It’s one night, just leave him to it.

I get your view and true about sat navs. I guess I just would have been able to avoid a 20min window and have updated. I dont begrudge him the time at all! I wouldn't mind if he was staying away! Just would have aprchiated him sticking to what he agreed. But then maybe I'm just irritated by it and shouldn't be.

Your son is 3 so I'm assuming he can't actually tell the time! Adjust bedtime accordingly.

This, are you sure you are actually happy about him going out today?

Yes, totally happy with him going out. We both enjoy our social time. And yes adjustmented bed time to fit in with it. Dunno, clearly I am being grumpy based on this and should just accept it... large glass of wine and an early night required for me it seems!