Just sits at the computer all day

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We are all off for a week, weather is rubbish so we’ve stayed in, it’s been nice and cosy, Dd and I have watched films, baked, done colouring. Dh has sat at the computer all day (not work, hobby doing designs) he’s barely spoken and doesn’t really participate, he does this a lot
Is this normal?? It’s Christmas

Normal for some people but not very sociable. He probably doesn't want to watch the films or bake?

Well no, but it’s chance to spend time with Dd surely?

Each family does what is normal for them. That said I don’t know many (actually any on reflection) where a child’s father would ignore them all day in favour of the computer. What did he do last year?

Normal for me, but i live alone my child as flown the nest.

He does this a lot, doesn’t ignore her obviously but just sort of does his thing, doesn’t initiate play or taking her out

I think it would be nice if you did some things as a family and also if your DH had some activities he did with DD just the two of them. That would give them a special bond and allow you time for yourself and your hobbies. The current set up is not problematic in that he has a hobby and gets downtime, just in that he's on his computer and split off from you two so much of the time.

It's good to teach kids to entertain themselves, but if his default is to try to do his own thing as much as possible, whilst you entertain your DD that's pretty shit. You don't need to spend £££ taking kids on days out. However, if he doesn't think to proactively engage with his child and make sure they're occupied with colouring etc, before doing his own hobby (because he knows you'll do that), then he's 'bare minimum' parenting.