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To think this was incredibly rude?

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MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 13:20

I was out for a few Christmas drinks with some old friends yesterday. Another friend of theirs, Anne, who I’d not met before, joined us for a while. She said she’d had a bit of a miserable Christmas Day because her adult daughter had behaved like a bit of a brat.

Anyway, she hadn’t been there that long when who should arrive in the pub but her daughter and her friend. The daughter, Jess, looked a bit embarrassed to be in the same pub as her mum, but she did come over and spoke to us. Anne introduced her and the friend, Kate.

Jess said her hellos and wished us all a merry Christmas, and briefly chatted to her mother before going off with Kate. Kate, however, did not say a word. Not to Anne, not to us. She just stood there with this sneer on her face, like she would rather have been anywhere else. I get that a friend’s mother’s friends aren’t the most exciting people a young woman could hope to meet, but not so much as a hello? At least for a friend’s mother, if not for strangers? But no - all poor Anne got was a look of barely disguised contempt.

When they’d gone, Anne said she thought Kate was a bad influence (and none of us argued otherwise!). Anyway, later on Anne decided to get a round of shots, and I went to the bar to help her carry them. As we were walking back, Kate saw us and said “Where’s my shot?”. Anne was clearly taken aback and said “Sorry?”. Kate said, “Where’s mine? I want a shot!”

Anne laughed and said that perhaps the lads she was talking to would buy her one, and we carried on walking. But frankly I was amazed she took it as calmly as she did. If it had been me she’d have got that shot glass right up her nostril!

Can you believe the brass neck of the girl?! Ignoring Anne to start with was bad enough, but to then tap her up for drinks, well… words fail me.

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MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 15:02

I imagine loads of pubs use plastic glasses for shots. It’s not like they were serving Cristal out of paper cups.

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toomuchfaff · 27/12/2025 15:03

I'm waiting for someone to suggest that she is ND...

MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 15:05

Isittimeformynapyet · 27/12/2025 15:00

Young people pubs. The kind where everyone gets on the shots. It might all kick off, you see.

They switched to plastic after the last time someone shoved one up someone’s nostril 😝

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MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 15:06

toomuchfaff · 27/12/2025 15:03

I'm waiting for someone to suggest that she is ND...

She very nearly was… assuming ND stands for Nostril Damaged.

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fatphalange · 27/12/2025 15:10

Well maybe you’re prone to violence instead of having a laugh but I’m afraid that does make you unreasonable and you need to chill out about a stranger not making small talk with you while her mate was talking to her mother and her group of friends.
You actually don’t know any of these people but they must have made quite the impression on you.

MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 16:13

You actually don’t know any of these people but they must have made quite the impression on you.

It only happened yesterday 😆 If I’m still fuming in a decade’s time maybe you’ll have a point!

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Seawolves · 27/12/2025 16:20

I think Anne handled it like an adult.

Rosealea · 27/12/2025 16:27

You're reaction is very odd

WinterWooliesBaa · 27/12/2025 16:47

MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 13:27

It’s not taking over my life! I just thought it might make an interesting thread.

What made you think that?

MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 16:51

Probably the same thing you thought when you decided to make that comment.

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BlackCat14 · 27/12/2025 16:59

Anne gave a great response. The girl was rude but I would really be arsed about someone I don’t know.

NovemberMorn · 27/12/2025 17:16

Has everyone got hangovers?

Yes of course Kate was rude, some young people are, just as some middle-aged and older people are, at least Anne's daughter didn't show her up, so that was a bonus.
I think Anne handled it well, but she is obviously used to cocky teenage girls....eventually, most grow up to be perfectly normal.

TessSaysYes · 27/12/2025 18:42

Total nonsense. Did you say you even give a shit? Why get into the dynamics of Anne, her daughter, her daughter's friend. Why isn't it a non event really.

CatamaranViper · 27/12/2025 20:26

ThatGladTiger · 27/12/2025 14:45

I generalise generations based on my interactions with them. Why are you so angry?

Angry...no. Frustrated at being pigeon holed by people who make snap judgements about entire generations.
You've only interacted with a tiny fraction of a massive group and declared them lesser than or somehow lacking. It's just miserable and damaging behaviour

MarriedWithCauldron · 27/12/2025 21:06

TessSaysYes · 27/12/2025 18:42

Total nonsense. Did you say you even give a shit? Why get into the dynamics of Anne, her daughter, her daughter's friend. Why isn't it a non event really.

Jesus. What is it with some people on here? Do you really never take any interest in anything that’s happening around you?

I’m not going to be lying awake tonight worrying about it 🙄 I was just interested.

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