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To think my sister has something to do with this

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bingalingg · 27/12/2025 13:10

I don’t want to go on and on, but my sister is an alcoholic and the last couple of years especially she’s become increasingly bitter, pushed myself, mum and brother and his family away and seems to think we have a conspiracy against her or something. She’s had police involved with her and her partner due to her kicking off, local authority taking her to court for not getting her daughter to school, I would receive renting phone calls off her then hear nothing for months and months, she is just not a very nice person, she says she’s a functioning alcoholic but she isn’t functioning as she can’t hold a job down and sleeps all day then drinks all night and every weekend gets on a coke bender.
Anyways, I had arranged to see my nieces and nephews tomorrow for a curry, haven’t seen them in ages and was really really looking forward to it. Nephew has just messaged to say he is hungover from being at his mums yesterday and isn’t going to make it. He said it’s nothing to do with his mum as he hasn’t even told her we were meeting because he’s scared of her kicking off ! wtf ?! Why can’t we see each other ? Why is she trying to turn her kids against us too? I just don’t get it ! I know he’s saying he’s ill but I think he’s worried his mum will find out and if her reaction, she has form for playing victim and making it all about her, how everyone has wronged her, everything is always someone else’s fault and she doesn’t see how much hard work she is !

Sorry I just needed to vent as it’s really pissed me off.

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WareColkar · 27/12/2025 14:00

Hi OP - while I have no siblings - my mum was an alcoholic - so j can understand things like

defensiveness

playing the victim

instilling fear in others all too well

notatinydancer · 27/12/2025 14:31

Alcoholics are tricky bastards.
Also got to think she might just be a horrible person.

bingalingg · 27/12/2025 15:16

WareColkar · 27/12/2025 14:00

Hi OP - while I have no siblings - my mum was an alcoholic - so j can understand things like

defensiveness

playing the victim

instilling fear in others all too well

Yep, there must be common traits ! I’m sorry you also know the behaviour

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bingalingg · 27/12/2025 15:16

notatinydancer · 27/12/2025 14:31

Alcoholics are tricky bastards.
Also got to think she might just be a horrible person.

To be honest she’s always been manipulative and too opinionated but the alcohol has just made her a million times worse it seems

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Only2daystogo · 27/12/2025 15:17

How old is the nephew?

bingalingg · 27/12/2025 15:44

Only2daystogo · 27/12/2025 15:17

How old is the nephew?

27

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