I booted me husband out the door a few years ago, but as it turned out we remained friendly and still help each other out eg money and lifts. His daughter lives in 'Cornwall' where he now lives - not in the same town though. The both profess to dislike Christmas and yet happy accept presents from me. She invited him to a Christmas Dinner at her friends so instead of coming to me he went there and that was that all okay then. BUT even though she and I are friendly she made no mention of this to me and when I asked him about it he was cagey. On Boxing Day I asked if he has a good time and he said it was a Good Feed. I asked if there had been many people .. no answer. I asked why his daughter had not mentioned the event to me.... he said it did not surprise him. I gave up and logged out. I spent Christmas alone no cards or presents from either of them. This all should not matter to me not really but they both want to be in my life. Christmas is such an important time to me for so many reasons and it is like I gave them the green light to have a non Christmas and they went off and had one anyway.....Gawd Dammit I am such a people pleaser.
The situation now is it feels like they are hiding something from me, and that along with my none birthday has me wound up. He knows I like to see people happy and yet not a single photo from either of them of a happy day.