Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Is this a bit crap or almost being a baby.

34 replies

Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:10

Or am I being a baby??

I’ve been ill since Christmas Eve. in bed feeling wretched.

Yesterday DH and DS went out for the day and stayed away and are home later today. This was a pre booked event. Dd has been home with me. DH is on hiswas home and has said him and DS are off our as soon as they get back to play football.

I feel so rough. And sorry for myself but also so sad for Dd who is bored. The football has been planned for ages. But I think DH could give it a miss to spend time with Dd.

AITA?

OP posts:
oviraptor21 · 27/12/2025 09:11

How old is DD? Could she go out with them?

Original poster
Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:13

She’s 13 and no they are un a footy match.

OP posts:
Iloveeverycat · 27/12/2025 09:13

What type of football has to be planned to be played. How old is. DD

Original poster
Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:14

It’s their league Christmas match. It’s casual but it is planned.

OP posts:
Iloveeverycat · 27/12/2025 09:16

I thought you were taking about a toddler or young child not a teenager. They don't need looking after. Why doesn't she just go out with friends.

Snorlaxo · 27/12/2025 09:16

Has she got any friends that she could see? The teen who live across the street from me have just come back home with a friend and a Starbucks that they probably bought at the shop about 20 mins away by foot.

PennyLaneisinmyheartandmysoul · 27/12/2025 09:18

Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:13

She’s 13 and no they are un a footy match.

Edited

13? Would she not rather see friends? Did she not want to go to their day event?
no i don’t think it’s fair to make them cancel going to a league game to keep a 13 yo entertained.

Iloveeverycat · 27/12/2025 09:18

I would have thought the last thing a teenager would want to do was hang around with their parents.

Original poster
Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:18

We live rurally and all her mates are busy with family plans today.

I think I am being a it of a baby about it. Juts feeling very sorry for myself and DD.

OP posts:
5128gap · 27/12/2025 09:19

You can't take away your sons event because you can't do something today with your daughter. Watch a film, talk, play quiet games with her and get DH to take her out tomorrow.

ForLoveNotMoney · 27/12/2025 09:20

She is 13 not 3. Leave the boys to their pre arranged plans. Is she even bored? She might be very happy doing whatever she is doing.

PennyLaneisinmyheartandmysoul · 27/12/2025 09:21

Would she need a ticket to go to the game? Yes change things for her to go, absolutely not cancel their activity,
what was her/your plan for today?

VanillaIceIceBaby · 27/12/2025 09:22

All of her friends are busy the day after Boxing Day?

I do think it’s unreasonable for two people to miss a planned event for a thirteen year old. It’s not like it’s her last day on the earth.

Snorlaxo · 27/12/2025 09:24

Are they going to be honest 3 hours or 6? A match and a pint is reasonable (people being away might mean that they can’t skip the match) but if it’s an all night drinking session then that’s annoying.

I’m surprised that a 13yo would want dad to amuse her unless you mean driving her somewhere like a shopping centre or something.

Original poster
Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:26

We were going to go to ice skating and then lunch out.

This has been helpful. I can see I am being a knob.

Thanks vipers. Will chat to dd And see if we can rustle up a mate and they can do something

OP posts:
Ccandmarmite · 27/12/2025 09:27

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

Ccandmarmite · 27/12/2025 09:28

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

hellowhaaat3632 · 27/12/2025 09:31

Take it easy and rest. What you DON'T need to do is constantly entertain your kids, esp when you're ill. Boredom is good for them.

Original poster
Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:35

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

I haven’t bitched about him. That’s a reach. I have said I have been a knob and a baby.

but by all means stick the boot in, hope it makes you feel good about yourself. It’s really nasty and unnecessary.

im unwell. I have a fever. I came on here for a needed reality check which I got. And you’ve decided to be that guy.

well done you. Feel like a tough guy?

OP posts:
VisitingInkMonitor · 27/12/2025 09:37

Come on OP this is so unreasonable. Most 13 y.os wouldn’t care less about having a day to themselves. She’ll be on her phone all day to her mates. I live with season ticket holders and I would never begrudge them going to their home game and neither would my DD who loathes footie as much as me. It’s awful being ill when you have things planned but you can’t stop others doing the things they had planned. I don’t think this is about your DD at all.

moose62 · 27/12/2025 09:42

Any chance of taking her to the cinema? You can always sleep through it.

myhaggisblewup · 27/12/2025 09:46

13 year old me loved doing my own thing at home without annoying parents trying to engage / entertain me, that was for young kids 🙄
This was 40 odd years before mobile were invented, god, how did we cope with anything? 😄

Snorlaxo · 27/12/2025 09:48

Stop acting like a sulky teen.

You’re not being a knob. You’re ill, feeling guilty and unable to think clearly because you’re feeling shit.

She’s 13 not 3 and will be fine with your plans being postponed a few days. If your h had cancelled the football then wouldn’t you feel guilty on your son’s behalf?

Frogbear · 27/12/2025 09:53

Peclet · 27/12/2025 09:26

We were going to go to ice skating and then lunch out.

This has been helpful. I can see I am being a knob.

Thanks vipers. Will chat to dd And see if we can rustle up a mate and they can do something

Just because people have given their opinions in response to your question and you don’t like the answer, that doesn’t make them vipers… 🙄

She’s not a little girl that needs looking after. That’s not a mean thing to say.

justpassmethemouse · 27/12/2025 09:58

You shouldn’t be calling yourself a knob or a baby. You’re a parent who may be worrying over something they don’t need to worry about.

Swipe left for the next trending thread