Partners family excluding kids

[Booklvr21]

My partner and I have been together 6 years. We have 4 children in total, two from my previous relationship, one from his and one together. We saw both family’s over Christmas with all 4 children and my family included my partners child in everything, including buying gifts. My partners brother and his partner however, failed to acknowledge my children (apart from the child me and my partner have together). I cannot fathom buying gifts for 2 children, and leaving the other two out. I will add that I know money is tight, but even just a tube of sweets so they felt included would have been nice. Note: this happens every year, and they even refused to invite my two children to their wedding.
AIBU to be frustrated about this?

note: they are also part of a blended family, and we don’t exclude any of their children

Is there an age discrepancy here that explains this? How old are your 4 and how old are their children?

What happened with the wedding issue?

Tbh if they stood fast on that they're not going to change now. So your discussion with your DP should be about dealing with it.

How old are the dc?
As I think that makes a difference.

a 16 and 17 yr old who spend half the time with their own Dad, is a very different scenario from 5 and 6 yr olds, particularly if their father had died or is estranged from them.

It is so fucking weird to me. If I was going to be at a Christmas somewhere with children I had never even met before and maybe would never see again I would still buy them a gift.

Everyone will have their own opinions but I think that’s horrid. My partner has 2 kids and my parents bought both girls some lovely gifts, and do the same for their birthdays, Easter and even made them a wee bag up at Halloween each. X

How many kids do they have? Maybe they feel it’s unfair they have to buy for 4.

I agree with you though, they should get them something, even if it’s small.