DS unwell

[bitanxious]

Trigger warning

It seems like a common cold plus fever. it’s only been 2 days. DS is 4. He’s not been sick. But…

About a month ago someone I know from school posted on their Facebook that her DD died.
The reason was that she gulped her sick while sleeping at night and it went through air pipe which made her choke. Her parents found out much later.

Her DD was only about a month older than my DS.

I was very anxious about it for a few days but it has all come back to me again since DS been unwell. I am closely monitoring him but obviously I cannot be next to him awake all night. I feel I can’t talk to anyone about it because it seems silly to think that.
I have told DS to wake me up and be sick if needed on his duvet.

I am not sure what I’m asking here.

I am not sure what I’m asking here.

I am afraid I am not sure either, @bitanxious

That would make me anxious too but I am sure it is incredibly rare. Why don’t you put him in bed with you for a few nights while he is poorly so you can keep an eye? Not saying that because I think anything is going to happen but it might just let you sleep and not be so worried x

I think you are over thinking things.
I’ve never heard of that happening to a child. I mean there is no specific virus that causes this to happen to children as far as I am aware. If there was it’d be all over the news. He probably has the flu it’s everywhere at the moment.

What happened to that little girl is so sad but astonishingly rare, I understand why it has you worried though. Could you raise the head end of his bed slightly while he's unwell?

This is an utterly tragic thing to have happened so I can see why this has made you anxious as it’s so close to you. However this sort of thing is astonishingly rare and you’ve no idea if this is the full story or if this child had anything underlying.

Have him in bed with you, always do that with mine when poorly. I have ocd and one of the obsessions is health anxiety over my kids (and me sometimes) so I totally get how anxious you must be.

Thank you all. His head is a bit high as I’ve already given him a slightly higher pillow. He’s coughing more if he’s lying down straight. I will transfer him into my bed now.

I always sleep with my DDs when they are poorly, it makes me feel less worried. It’s the only time they are allowed in my bed. Hope he feels better soon!

I’d sleep with him (as I did with my 16 year old when she got drunk and started throwing up) you can get breathing mats but think they are more effective for babies

So he did wake up in the middle of the night next to me and rushed himself to the bathroom as he was feeling sick. I am so glad he listened to me about getting up when he feels sick.

He seems a bit more calm and better today with no fever thankfully. Hope the worst is over.

As PP have mentioned yes maybe the little girl had some issues. We don’t know the whole story.

Thank you 🙏🏻 everyone for your inputs.

Don’t reply then if you have nothing constructive to add.

I get it OP, there was a similar case locally to me recently. A friend of a friend etc and their toddler who tragically passed away after what started as a seemingly normal viral infection but turned into something else scarily quickly.

It’s always really worrying because it makes thing like this happening feel real and closer to home. But it is rare. I’ve always told my dc from an early age if they need to be sick just do it. Don’t hold it in or try to get to the bathroom, it can be cleaned up. Other than that I really don’t think there’s anything we can do. Life is full of risks and hidden dangers and for me, the hardest part of being a parent is the endless worry of something happening to my dc. But we can’t live like that can we, just protect them and educate them as much as possible.

very rare - I always made sure dd was on her side - same for someone very drunk