To not go... WWYD

[OnceMoreIntoTheBreachDearFriends]

Spent the last few months working 50+ hours a week for no overtime (hello NHS management) followed by what was supposed to be a relaxing two weeks holiday that was overtaken by the worst food I've ever known abroad. Only got back home 11am Christmas Eve.

Had already committed to a couple of nights away tomorrow and Sunday to help a friend who wants to be away from home - will be lovely I know but it's another two night away from home!

I then had said I would go and visit family 2.5 hours away for NYE. It seemed like a good idea at the time but I really, really don't want to go now. They're only going out in their village and it just seems like such as a dash around - I also hate NYE and am usually in bed by 9pm after some nice food and champagne at home. I'm not back at work until 5th Jan so would have some time after but I'm starting to think I should just put myself first for a change and not go.

But on the other hand I feel I'm letting others down. I don't know whether it's best just to come clean, or pretend to be ill nearer the time...

Yabu to not do things you've committed to just because you don't feel like it now

Stop saying yes to stuff you don't really want to do

You need to please yourself on this occasion. White lies to spare feelings are not the worst thing in the world.

stay home!

Oh dear you’ve come down with a nasty stomach bug/cold/flu/mysterious illness the day before. What a shame you can’t go.

Sack it off but spare their feelings by faking illness

Tis the NHS season for Norovirus if you are desperate 👍

Quite handily I work in the NHS...not so handily I'm off until 5th Jan 😂

I worry that we are quite a close family so someone may slip up, unless I literally hide at home and pretend to everyone I'm actually ill...

To be fair this weekend was agreed to a long time ago but I didn't realise then that we only got back Christmas Eve from abroad and how jet lagged I'd actually be!

No pressure from a complete stranger obvs, but I’d go with your friend as she probably needs your company more than you need to be at home, and u
its late to cancel.

I think you should honour commitments unless genuinely ill or unable. You'll have five days afterwards to do nothing and recharge.

Don’t be a flake, go.

Oh no I'd never cancel this weekend as I know how much it means to her, this was about the NYE plans with family

Agreed. I would do this, but not go out for NYE.

If be honest with the family member. You’re exhausted and over committed and just need a few days to do nothing. Unless their plans completely depend on you going hopefully they’ll be fine with this.

Oh not at all, her sister is also visiting and I actually think they'd have a better time without me as they're both silly drunks whereas I'm the one asleep in the corner!

Don't go. I,m NHS too and Im too knackered to do anything. I've spent the last two days asleep on the sofa.

When you have a stressful and demanding job, downtime is ESSENTIAL. Sounds like you need to just rest. Don't feel guilty about cancelling NYE plans. It sounds like a long journey there and back. It's not ideal but sometimes you have to put yourself first.