To hate Sm at this time of year

Crikeyalmighty · 26/12/2025 15:16

@wishmydogwouldchillout I do assure you it’s really not like that for a great many people - just those people are far more likely to post -

TheChosenTwo · 26/12/2025 15:16

A lot of families drive long distances to spend time with each other at Christmas, living far away from each other if you generally enjoy spending time together comes with pluses and minuses.
Yes do stay off SM, while a lot of it is influencer BS there is also a lot of regular people BS on there too. My Christmas was absolutely lovely and there is no evidence of it on SM because it’s private and no one else’s business!
I still enjoy a scroll through Instagram but don’t allow anyone else’s content to make me feel bad mostly because I don’t believe most of what I see.

TidyCyan · 26/12/2025 15:18

Yes, and a lot of the big family groups have annoyed the shit out of each other for the last 3 days. You can see this from threads on here!

usedtobeaylis · 26/12/2025 15:19

I think your experience is more typical, it's just not exciting and those people aren't performing their day on social media. If it's something you want for yourself though, you can start building a community this year and organising events for next Christmas.

I dislike it but for different reasons. I hate the performance of putting decorations up in November and the performance of taking them down with a manic yet weary air on boxing day. And I hate, hate, hate the comments on posts of women who feel unseen by their partners and families, from women who have convinced themselves that no thought for them is perfectly fine because their 'real gift' is in the mere existence of human beings. The whole thing is nauseating.

Crikeyalmighty · 26/12/2025 20:57

usedtobeaylis · 26/12/2025 15:19

I think your experience is more typical, it's just not exciting and those people aren't performing their day on social media. If it's something you want for yourself though, you can start building a community this year and organising events for next Christmas.

I dislike it but for different reasons. I hate the performance of putting decorations up in November and the performance of taking them down with a manic yet weary air on boxing day. And I hate, hate, hate the comments on posts of women who feel unseen by their partners and families, from women who have convinced themselves that no thought for them is perfectly fine because their 'real gift' is in the mere existence of human beings. The whole thing is nauseating.

I hate taking mine down! They go up around 12th but because we go away for new year never seem to have been up that long when we get back- when we lived in Copenhagen I loved the fact people kept them up for weeks after new year!! Especially outside the house

mamajong · 27/12/2025 00:30

SM is mostly bullshit. I spent xmas eve counselling a friend through family drama yet come xmas day there they are in matching PJ's as if they have the perfect life! Shut it down, pause it, mute it, but whatever you do dont believe it! Sending hugs

Gettingbysomehow · 27/12/2025 00:45

Its all staged bullshit. I chose to spend Xmas alone this year because Im knackered and just want to relax while my family bickered and fell out with each other 4 hours away.
The whole thing is a massive con.

DecemberGloom · 27/12/2025 00:48

Delete it!
I deleted Instagram and Facebook a couple of months ago (didn’t do any other SM) and I am so much happier for it. I’m also spending less money on stuff I don’t need and appreciating what I do have so much more.
Comparison is the thief of joy.

Dartmoorcheffy · 27/12/2025 00:50

You can easily counterbalance it by reading the many threads on here about all the tensions, stress and falling out. This year its been me, DP and the 2 dogs we didn't bother with presents as neither of us really need anything and money is a bit tight. But we have had a lovely peaceful couple of days, lots of nice food and drink, and no drama. Its been perfect.

NigelForage · 27/12/2025 04:05

A sleepover on Boxing Day is odd

Fbfbfvfvv · 27/12/2025 05:41

Unless your DD is an older teen or an adult I wouldn’t be overjoyed that they were at their friends.
But living away from family would be my idea of bliss. Instead we have had to put up with crazy estranged family members harassing us at our door over Christmas and not taking no for an answer. Don’t take the peace you have for granted by wishing you had a fake Insta life like “everyone else”. Most of those photos will have been staged and then afterwards a lot of them would have been ignoring each other and staring at their phones checking how many likes their filtered, staged photos received.

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wishmydogwouldchillout · 27/12/2025 09:36

NigelForage · 27/12/2025 04:05

A sleepover on Boxing Day is odd

Sleepover?

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wishmydogwouldchillout · 27/12/2025 09:37

Fbfbfvfvv · 27/12/2025 05:41

Unless your DD is an older teen or an adult I wouldn’t be overjoyed that they were at their friends.
But living away from family would be my idea of bliss. Instead we have had to put up with crazy estranged family members harassing us at our door over Christmas and not taking no for an answer. Don’t take the peace you have for granted by wishing you had a fake Insta life like “everyone else”. Most of those photos will have been staged and then afterwards a lot of them would have been ignoring each other and staring at their phones checking how many likes their filtered, staged photos received.

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Just over the road for a couple of hours to play and show toys

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pizzaHeart · 27/12/2025 09:43

There are 3 of us, we don’t have family in UK. I think the secret is to find some interesting bits and pieces you do together like a game, a quiz, a walk, cooking etc and then have a treat for you alone time.
Wake your DH up and go for a walk together.

Iloveeverycat · 27/12/2025 09:44

wishmydogwouldchillout · 26/12/2025 15:13

I’ve stopped looking now as just feel a bit sad.

We live away from family, so it’s just been the three of us this year.
Everyone else’s life seems so full, whilst i’m sat watching tv with a Baileys whilst Dh sleeps and Dd is at a friends house

All I see is huge groups together, so many nights out, large families, panto trips etc

This sounds ideal to me and this is how I like it. Just you and your family and you can do what you like. There are so many threads on here from people complaining about having to go here there and everywhere over Christmas. I don't do Social media at all but I would assume it was mostly fake and set up. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors. I expect they are not really happy at all and is all done just for show. How many post about all the disagreements and arguments that happen over Christmas.