It feels like neither of my kids like me much

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Just turned five year old is so angry and defiant. He shouts at me in proper anger and has taken to hissing like an angry cat. And biting and pinching. Hopefully have quelled that now but still.

Two year old has screamed, cried and whined for what feels like forever. Bleats intermittently and that builds up to an incessant whine to a cry to a scream, half the time I don’t know what she wants and even when I do know and give it to her she still screams.

I know I must be doing a rubbish job but try to be kind as I’m so so low with it today.

So sorry to hear you're having such a hard time.
Maybe they're both overwhelmed/tired/fed up, etc. You're the 'safe' parent, so your kids feel that they can let it all out with you. It's not personal.
Just try to be kind, consistent, and get them out into the fresh air as much as possible, so they can let off steam. Make use of your support network -- it's good for them to be with your family and friends too. Less intense.
Good luck!

Try and catch them doing something right then praise praise praise you are so kind to mummy thank you for helping me ....

What a fantastic job you are doing with that colouring etc

That sounds rough, but I think you’re doing yourself a massive disservice. They aren’t likely to be behaving like this because of you. It could be because they need a bit of support because they’re nd, or it could be that the time of year has got them both completely overwhelmed and they don’t know how to process it, or it could just be stages where they’re both being little monsters at exactly the same time and they’ll grow out of it.

What support have you got around you? If none, have you heard of Gingerbread? They’ve been around for decades and funding cuts means they can’t offer as much as they used to, but they can’t still provide a support network for single parents.