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To never see my dad again on Xmas day

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spannerpudding · 26/12/2025 09:37

My parents have been divorced for years and both sets of parents remarried. My dad’s new (ish) wife is like no one I’ve ever met. Socially incredibly inept, rude, ungrateful, impolite. Conversation is weird - long convoluted stories about insignificant people. She’s speaks with such venom about people who have minorly inconvenienced her and has no ounce of compassion or forgiveness. She is money and possession driven and incredibly materialistic. She has such a skewed view on the world and sensationalises everything. She makes bitchy comments to me relating to me/my job/my house/children every time to see her and my dad seems to ignore this.

My dad has basically morphed into her. I have massively distanced myself from him and now might see him 4 times a year. He told me yesterday that his brother is now also not talking to him for reasons unknown, however I strongly suspect it’s because they have become so insufferable. She has also been sacked from 2 very high profile jobs. One of which told her she was the ‘most toxic person they have ever met’. How can my dad not see what is going on?

Would it be unreasonable to never ruin my Xmas day by spending it with them again?

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thepariscrimefiles · 26/12/2025 09:41

I'd cut them off permanently, not just on Christmas Day. She sounds toxic and insane and your dad doesn't sound much better.

I hope you still have a good relationship with your mum.

spannerpudding · 26/12/2025 09:45

They clearly dont have the ability to self reflect so if I did cut them off they would blame me and it would be my fault. I do the bare minimum currently but I just want to shake my dad and tell him to open his eyes

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