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Another Sister Christmas Family Drama

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Sunshineandalltherainbows · 26/12/2025 07:26

Ahhh!!!! I have posted before about my sister and her youngest son who has some behaviour problems. Last christmas we stayed at home and didnt have our usual family get together.

This year I compromised and said I would come round my mums late afternoon.

My nephew was on and off but I am used to him and I do know Christmas can make behaviour even worse.

I was sat next to my son and BIL and nephew threw a heavy candle and jolder at my son out of nowhere. My son shouted at him. I said to my son don't shout and to my nephew don't throw.

My BIL then turns to my nephew and said you cant do that with them you know they can't take a joke. My son then went to sit in a different room and I went with him. A bit later my mum came and checked if we were ok. We explained what happened and said we were taking a bit of a time out in dining room and were playing a game but will be back in a bit. My niece overheard the conversation spoke to my sister and they all left in a huff dramatically and refusing to talk to anyone but my dad.

Lesson learnt don't compromise, just stay at home. I genuinely thought I was avoiding drama by not calling my bil out which is what I wanted to do but dodnt for the sake of christmas and my mum.

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Endofyear · 26/12/2025 08:41

Just tell your mum that you'll visit when they're not there from now on. If your sister and BIL can't control their child, that's not your problem. You're sensible not to put your children in harms way.

Sunshineandalltherainbows · 26/12/2025 08:56

My sister is round there ALL the time. We are seeing my in laws today and not going to lie looking forward to it, as although a lot more people, it is always chilled out.

I had gone super low contact with my sister due to this sort of thing. I know it's hard and I know it's been difficult as my nephew has been put on a part time timetable at school due to his behaviour but she doesn't help herself and for my own sanity I need to remember why low contact not in anyone's house is the way to go.

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Soozikinzii · 26/12/2025 09:04

Sorry about that must've been a bit of a rubbish xmas for you and your son. I cannot stand that cant take a joke stuff . They arent helping your nephew with that attitude.

icallshade · 26/12/2025 09:30

I remember reading your other thread OP. I'm assuming things haven't improved since he started school? Had your sister acknowledged there is a problem since starting school? Is your mum still just acting like there isn't a problem?

harriethoyle · 26/12/2025 09:32

Invite your mum to yours @Sunshineandalltherainbows thdn your sister can’t turn up and ruin things.

Sunshineandalltherainbows · 26/12/2025 09:51

icallshade · 26/12/2025 09:30

I remember reading your other thread OP. I'm assuming things haven't improved since he started school? Had your sister acknowledged there is a problem since starting school? Is your mum still just acting like there isn't a problem?

No unfortunately not. I had really hoped things would improve when he had a bit more structure with school. He has found school really difficult and is on a reduced timetable with 1:1 support. My mum realises there is a bigger issue and not just age as she picks him up from school so my sister can still work and he has hurt the teachers and struggled with any demands put on him.

I am just weary of it all now and my sister just thinking everyone has to accept it. It just causes too much stress and I'm annoyed with myself for saying we would come over for a bit.

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