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Help pls! So nervous about new job!

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Strawberrycake4 · 25/12/2025 23:24

Hey

Just posting here really to get some perspective!

I’ve got a job at the moment which I’m comfortable in- I’ve got some really close friends there, I can do the job well and I’m very familiar with everything. There have been many, many other issues though and I feel the pay has been poor for the very high responsibility and workload.

I’ve been given a job in a new place- it’s quite literally the exact same role but with a much higher salary. The only other thing is I’ll be myself doing the job- it’s hard to explain without giving away too many details but think of it like a gp surgery- at the moment there’s multiple of us at a time in a big practice, so in theory we can help each other if needed, but in my new place it’s smaller and I’ll be the only gp. (It’s not a gp surgery but similar sort of set up!) So less safety net in that way.

I’m so, so excited to start my new job- at the interview the job sounded brilliant and I got a great vibe from the person interviewing me, but I start in 2 weeks and I’m just a bit nervous all of a sudden. I don’t even know why- I guess just leaving everything I’m familiar with and all my friends, and I’m worried I’ll be rubbish at my job and will struggle in a new place working myself. But at the same time I know sometimes you have to put yourself out there and take a leap and you won’t grow by staying comfortable. Realistically I hardly ever ask colleagues for help anyway and I have the degree and qualifications to work solo and I work fine at the moment, so I know I can do it, I think it’s just the last minute nerves kicking in! The salary is a BIG improvement. Mid 30s to mid 50s, which is great for my age (early/mid 20s) and area (Northern England)

I guess I’m just asking, is it normal to be nervous when changing job? Even if you know it’s the right thing to do and the new job sounds great? I’m just worried I’ll be rubbish or i’ll miss my friends. My current job is my first grad job and I’ve been there a few years so this is the first time I’ve changed and I think it’s just the butterflies kicking in now! But realistically there were issues I became fed up with, and the salary is such a big improvement it would be silly to stay on the basis of missing my friends.

Has anyone ever had similar experience or have any advice? I just really want to do well at my new place and make a good impression and not let them down. Thanks so much!

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YippyKiYay · 25/12/2025 23:42

Congrats on the new job!
It's totally normal to be nervous about going somewhere new, esp if you've been at your old job for a long time
I always overthink things for a least the first few months (years) as I'm like that.
Give yourself some time to get a handle on who everyone is and what the new place vibe is. Also, don't underestimate how exhausting it can be to learn new things, even just a new train timetable or where the cafes are. Your brain will be working hard!
Have a great time, and congrats again

alwaysstressed · 25/12/2025 23:49

Its in a veterinary practice isn’t it? You worked in the main hospital now you’re going to work in one of their branch surgeries.

ManyPigeons · 25/12/2025 23:53

Yes obviously it’s normal to be nervous before starting a new job. Any change is a normal cause of nervousness.

My only advice is don’t imagine that your colleagues are closer than they are - don’t immediately trust them with total honesty or divulgence of your private affairs or let them engage in idle gossip that leads you into a trap of being there when X was said about Y.

Strawberrycake4 · 26/12/2025 10:59

YippyKiYay · 25/12/2025 23:42

Congrats on the new job!
It's totally normal to be nervous about going somewhere new, esp if you've been at your old job for a long time
I always overthink things for a least the first few months (years) as I'm like that.
Give yourself some time to get a handle on who everyone is and what the new place vibe is. Also, don't underestimate how exhausting it can be to learn new things, even just a new train timetable or where the cafes are. Your brain will be working hard!
Have a great time, and congrats again

Ah thank you so much for the advice!

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Strawberrycake4 · 26/12/2025 11:00

ManyPigeons · 25/12/2025 23:53

Yes obviously it’s normal to be nervous before starting a new job. Any change is a normal cause of nervousness.

My only advice is don’t imagine that your colleagues are closer than they are - don’t immediately trust them with total honesty or divulgence of your private affairs or let them engage in idle gossip that leads you into a trap of being there when X was said about Y.

Great, thank you so much! Yeah I’m going to make sure I don’t get involved in any sort of bitching or gossiping- tbh I didn’t really get involved in it at my current place but it’s very easy to be caught up in it so I’m going to make sure I don’t get involved at all x

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Strawberrycake4 · 26/12/2025 11:01

alwaysstressed · 25/12/2025 23:49

Its in a veterinary practice isn’t it? You worked in the main hospital now you’re going to work in one of their branch surgeries.

Very similar sort of situation 👍🏼

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