Page 4 | Neighbours complaining about noisy dc in garden

MrsDoomsPatterson1 · 25/12/2025 18:38

MySillyCrab · 25/12/2025 18:36

You don’t expect to hear balls smashing off the wall of the house or fence for 5 hours of your christmas day though

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Where does OP
say that’s what was happening?

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 25/12/2025 18:39

YAB extremely unreasonable. 5 hours of noisy playing in the garden in one day! They might not have said anything before doesn't mean they were ok with it. They were putting up with it. Christmas day has been too much,

go to the park for five hours tomorrow and stop being so selfish.

Feelikedancing · 25/12/2025 18:39

I am that neighbour who hates kid noise, sorry but it's annoying af, especially if there's a ball involved. I wouldn't tell my neighbour to stop them playing reasonably in the garden, for a reasonable amount of time, but I have asked them to stop bouncing a ball repeatedly and kicking it against the fence.
I real terms they can't stop your kids playing obviously, but I would be mindful to maybe try to be sensible about how long they are out, that ultimatum would piss me off though, they can't actually dictate anything that's reasonable, which kids playing in a garden would come under. It's all about communication and give and take with neighbours isn't it, laying down the law like that would get anyone's hackles raised.

Vaxtable · 25/12/2025 18:40

I would hate to have you as my neighbour. One day I would expect peace and quiet would be Christmas Day.

try thinking about your neighbours for once

AgnesX · 25/12/2025 18:41

OldGothsFadeToGrey · 25/12/2025 18:37

Yes they are massively asking too much that a family with children don’t use their garden.

They can go somewhere else that guarantees quiet.

If they were so entitled towards me I’d be having a last minute winter bbq.

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Too much to ask that they use it quietly then?OP'd better keep her fingers crossed her neighbours don't discover thrash metal rock in the not too distant future if she takes that attitude.

JDM625 · 25/12/2025 18:41

it’s their first Xmas here but they would have known our dc play out a lot ?

HOW could they possibly have predicted when they bought the house that you would allow your children to be noisy outside for 5hrs a day???

Livelovelaughfuckoff · 25/12/2025 18:41

Fucking hate basketball hoops in gardens so if they’ve had to listen to that and a football being hit against a fence got half the day then I’m not surprised they are pissed off.

ClareBlue · 25/12/2025 18:41

Also, if they do make a formal complaint to Environmental Health they then have to declare it if they sell their house. Plenty of buyers are put off if a seller has had to make a complaint about their neighbour, irrespective of the outcome of the complaint. So there are consequences for people instigating an investigation.

PistachioTiramisu · 25/12/2025 18:41

I do sympathise with them - nothing worse than kids making a noise when you are trying to eat or relax - they had been out between 10 and 1, so I think it would have been courteous to keep them inside during the afternoon.

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 25/12/2025 18:41

TheignT · 25/12/2025 18:37

Can you not see that kids playing with their presents on Christmas Day is perfectly normal.

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In the house it is. In the garden in December it is not. Selfish attitude that everyone needs to put up with your kids noise for hours.

Happyjoe · 25/12/2025 18:42

OldGothsFadeToGrey · 25/12/2025 18:37

Yes they are massively asking too much that a family with children don’t use their garden.

They can go somewhere else that guarantees quiet.

If they were so entitled towards me I’d be having a last minute winter bbq.

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There are laws in the UK where people are entitled to enjoy their own homes in peace. So to ask them to go somewhere else is laughable.

The OP is taking this enjoyment of their own home away because of the sheer amount of hours of the children outside, all day in the summer.
It's about balance and some consideration.

If someone was playing a stereo in their garden all daylight hours am pretty sure the OP would get fed up or if someone had a dog outside, barking 8 hours a day. Noise is noise, matters not the source.

MySillyCrab · 25/12/2025 18:42

MrsDoomsPatterson1 · 25/12/2025 18:38

Where does OP
say that’s what was happening?

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“We got the dc (8 and 5) a lot of presents for the garden (mud kitchen , outdoor toys, football/goals basketball hoop etc) they both have AuDHD and need to let off steam in the fresh air.”

“Some ball bouncing yes but nothing terrible.”

Always two sides to every story and having lived near someone like this I have a good understanding of how bad they are.

pictoosh · 25/12/2025 18:43

I'm a Child Development Practitioner in a school for children with additional support needs and believe me, plenty of time outdoors is essential for many of our students. We have to accompany them outdoors in all weathers and for extended periods...something we accept as being crucial to their progress and emotional regulation.

OP says her kids are AuDHD so I sympathise with the household need to use the garden as they do.
Like I said earlier in the thread, if the neighbours want silence at their behest, they really ought to seek a property without neighbouring families. OP's kids don't stop needing the garden on command, even if there are visitors next door. That's living among other people for you...they're not always going to be able to accommodate your whims. Additional support needs are exactly that; needs.

All kids need to blow off steam outside really...it's just that they don't any more. They sit around on screens. Kids playing out all day used to be normal.

WildFlowerBees · 25/12/2025 18:43

You might not think you’re being unreasonable however why do the neighbours have to listen to your kids for a large chunk of the day and their wish for some quiet is ignored? Your children’s needs don’t trump the neighbours, it’s going to be bad enough for them in the warmer months, be a bit considerate.

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Xmasinthegarden · 25/12/2025 18:43

Happyjoe · 25/12/2025 18:24

5 hours in the garden, screaming, shouting banging footballs? Sorry, I'd absolutely hate living next to you. Sounds horrible.
Why do you not go out for them to let off steam sometimes? Instead of inflicting your children on others - and this is what you're doing.

No screaming and shouting ! Yes some bouncing of the ball but just general chatting , laughter not anything like screaming

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Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 25/12/2025 18:44

AgnesX · 25/12/2025 18:00

You're used to your kids. They clearly aren't and want a bit of peace and quiet for their visitors.

You said they'd been out for 3 hours which is a good chunk of time. Sorry, but I don't think they're asking too much.

5 hours actually

ResusciAnnie · 25/12/2025 18:44

They have text now with a ‘gentle reminder - tomorrow needs to be a calm peaceful day. Thanks for your cooperation’ wtf !!!

🤢🤢🤢 anyone who sends me a pass-agg ‘gentle reminder’ can fuck right off! Giving parish council busybody vibes.

BauhausOfEliott · 25/12/2025 18:44

I don’t have kids but I cannot begin to imagine what sort of arseholes would complain about the sound of children playing on Christmas Day!

Even if the kids were being noisy, that is a reasonable use of your garden. It’s not a noise nuisance. Nobody can expect never to hear their neighbours. These people are insane.

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 25/12/2025 18:44

pictoosh · 25/12/2025 18:43

I'm a Child Development Practitioner in a school for children with additional support needs and believe me, plenty of time outdoors is essential for many of our students. We have to accompany them outdoors in all weathers and for extended periods...something we accept as being crucial to their progress and emotional regulation.

OP says her kids are AuDHD so I sympathise with the household need to use the garden as they do.
Like I said earlier in the thread, if the neighbours want silence at their behest, they really ought to seek a property without neighbouring families. OP's kids don't stop needing the garden on command, even if there are visitors next door. That's living among other people for you...they're not always going to be able to accommodate your whims. Additional support needs are exactly that; needs.

All kids need to blow off steam outside really...it's just that they don't any more. They sit around on screens. Kids playing out all day used to be normal.

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The neighbours have not asked for silence, or quiet at all times. They have ignored the excessive noise for most of the year.

I bet you are not outside for 5 hours.

itsgettingweird · 25/12/2025 18:44

What a pair of entitled patronising pricks.

Your DCs sound great and personally I love nothing more than hearing kids playing outside. We have a park opposite us and the kids have been out there (and shrieking with excitement!) on new bikes, roller skates scooters and balls etc all day.

I hope the weather holds out for it continue all holidays.

O wouldn’t even acknowledge the texts

IvyEvolveFree · 25/12/2025 18:45

There are lots of things people are entitled to do, but they don’t out of consideration for their neighbours.

I would be inviting around teenagers to chain smoke in the garden and play music on their phones all day - preferably with explicit lyrics you’d need to explain. Then in summer I would get lots of noisy dusty garden work done, starting promptly at 8 am right up until 9 pm at night. Pets? Fireworks - Diwali, New Year, Ramadan - you get the picture. Housework early doors. Pressure washing the car every weekend. Planting lots of insect attracting hedging along the boundary fence. Anything that was legal and I was entitled to do, but of course don’t because I’m not a dick. Kids can play without making lots of noise. If yours can’t, then you take them out to let off steam in the outdoors - make as much noise as you want there.

Bonden · 25/12/2025 18:45

Christ I’d hate to live next to the OP.

Happyjoe · 25/12/2025 18:46

pictoosh · 25/12/2025 18:43

I'm a Child Development Practitioner in a school for children with additional support needs and believe me, plenty of time outdoors is essential for many of our students. We have to accompany them outdoors in all weathers and for extended periods...something we accept as being crucial to their progress and emotional regulation.

OP says her kids are AuDHD so I sympathise with the household need to use the garden as they do.
Like I said earlier in the thread, if the neighbours want silence at their behest, they really ought to seek a property without neighbouring families. OP's kids don't stop needing the garden on command, even if there are visitors next door. That's living among other people for you...they're not always going to be able to accommodate your whims. Additional support needs are exactly that; needs.

All kids need to blow off steam outside really...it's just that they don't any more. They sit around on screens. Kids playing out all day used to be normal.

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Rubbish.
Everyone in the UK is protected by law to enjoy the peace of their home. One person doesn't trump another.

The OP is being hugely inconsiderate and a bit lazy imo. She could take them out some of the time to let off steam. Instead no, in the garden all daylight hours and even longer in the summer. It is also possible to stop the ball bouncing and most certainly stop any screaming and shouting.

Sundriessundries · 25/12/2025 18:46

5 and a half hours on Christmas Day - excessive and selfish imo. Were you out there with them?

Ministerofmumbles · 25/12/2025 18:46

TheignT · 25/12/2025 18:37

Can you not see that kids playing with their presents on Christmas Day is perfectly normal.

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That good old sense of entitlement… no reasoning or seeing it from anyone else’s point of view.