AIBU not to go?

[KurtCobainLover]

I’m supposed to be going to visit my parents Dec 27 - 30 with the teen DC.

They have the flu. Mum is pretty much over it but dad is shivery and feverish. I’ve just spoken to them and dad is in a foul mood (he always is when he’s ill).

DD has her mocks when she goes back to school so I’d rather she didn’t get sick and if I’m honest I find it difficult to be around dad at the best of times let alone when he’s ill and bad tempered.

Dad wants to make the decision tomorrow but I need to let xdh know if he can have the DC for a little longer (which he would like).

AIBU to say we won’t be going and will come up for a weekend with once mocks are over?

Just do it - Why put yourself through all of that with your Dad and risk catching the flu too!

We have it here DT2 came home from school Friday with temp of 39.8c (hadn’t told teachers he felt poorly as didn’t want to be sent home from party!); meant plans for my birthday on Saturday got cancelled. DT1 went down on Sunday, I got it Monday night and DH had to take 2 days dependents leave while slept almost constantly. He has been a superstar taking on the load while I recover.

Th reason for saying this to you is that you really don’t need this going round your family and I’d avoid anyone with it - we had no choice as we don’t know where it came from apart from school!!

Thank you. I decided not to go which turned into a huge row and we all decided to let the dust settle before speaking again.

I’m quite proud of myself for setting boundaries. My DF tried to guilt trip me into going and then got really angry with me when I didn’t capitulate. Normally I would just go along with what he says but this time I just said no.

Good for you!!

We’re on day 6 billion here - well, maybe day 9 but feels interminably long!! I’m now on antibiotics and am waiting for a callback for DT1 who just can’t shake this cough and is now very hoarse on top. Called 111 at 9:35am and still waiting for tge out of hours gp to call back!!

DH did cook Christmas dinner today, as food needed using before it went to waste; he served me my usual size portion and I managed maybe 12 mouthfuls, mostly meat and 1/2 a yorkie, a roastie, which he made very well, I must say!! I’m done now but trying to stay downstairs for more than 30 minutes!!

You're not being unreasonable.

If they're testing positive, they need to stay away from people, not infect them.🙄

You set boundaries and kept you and your kids from getting infected. That's a good thing.