DH cooking Christmas Dinner

[butterfliesandbee]

Dh doesn't cook. Very very rarely cooks a meal during the year. Could be good at it but lack of practice over last 15 years. As a result he isn't a great cook.
But has decided he is cooking Christmas Dinner, won't take advice and says he is doing it. Some questionable decisions being made that I wouldn't do with regards to the cooking but letting him get on with it.
AIBU to say I am pissed off I cook every other meal of the year but arguably the biggest one I am not allowed to do. Am currently enjoying a glass of wine while he does it, which is lovely for a change.

Make the most of it, and don’t insist he cooks xx amount of times a week!!

Men and their performative preferences, is he expecting a big hoopla upon dishing up?

He's going to talk about this until Easter, you know this, don't you? Does he do performative barbecuing as well? I bet he does. Have another glass of wine, is my advice 😄

After taking on the biggest meal of the year, he'll be able to do dinner a few times a week in future.
Remind him of this as you put down your cutlery today.

Just tell him how wonderful it was and how he absolutely must make a roast every Sunday from now on.

How does a grown man never cook a meal throughout the year? An actual adult man never cooking? How does he eat? Does he just live off sandwiches and takeaways? Does he never cook for you? I’m calling bullshit, this must be a wind up! Unless he’s had some kind of problem with his hands that has been resolved just in time for Christmas

Why would you be pissed off he’s cooking this one? No wonder he doesn’t bother usually. Enjoy the wine

Have you got plenty of Gaviscon/Imodium available for tonight and tomorrow? Spare pack of loo rolls?

If so, just drink plenty of wine and tell him he's done such a cracking job, he can do sunday lunch every week from now on.

Don't offer to do the washing up.

My DD is cooking today. She’s got a very good palate and can whip up something tasty from nothing, and I’m thrilled to hand it over to her.
It’s not a complicated meal, it’s the timings which get a bit stressful though. Just don’t expect perfection, and if it’s decent then maybe you can suggest he hones his new skills by cooking more often!

Exactly - why has he been allowed to get away with not pulling his weight. @butterfliesandbee What’s the reason he can’t cook meals during the working week and weekends?

How does he eat normally then ? Does he just buy takeaways ? You surely wouldn’t choose to live with a man that chooses not to look after himself with basic life skills ? Or do you just enjoy mummying him ?!! Embarrassing either way . I certainly wouldn’t be bragging about his cooking today .

Be prepared for it being marvellous. Sod’s Law is he gets it right the first time and then spends the whole year bragging about it.

My Dh is also cooking dinner which is fine but his prep time is shocking and it is making me twitchy! It is just us 2 so i will get it when I get it, 🫤

Oh 😂

MN husbands are weird as fuck! Imagine being an adult and deciding you’re just not going to cook anything for 15 years because you’re “not very good at it” and your wife is cool with it! For 15 YEARS! That’s nuts!

My 13 year old cooked Christmas dinner this year, I helped a little bit but she did a great job. If a kid can do it, I’m pretty sure a man will do just fine. I’d be worried about my child if she never cooked anything all year and she’s literally a kid. I wouldn’t allow a man to live in my home if he can’t function as an adult. I’m not operating a care home or meals on wheels service.

The enabling MN wife is just as weird here, especially as she’s now complaing that he’s cooking, and that he doesn’t want help. Her and her DH deserve each other!

@ToKittyornottoKitty I agree, I’m glad it’s not just me that finds it so bizarre! The dynamics are so off. The wife plays the role of mummy and servant whilst the husband plays the role of the little boy and incompetent fool. But how does that work when he’s clearly a capable adult who goes to work each day? And how does a woman stay in a relationship like that? No way could I be with someone who wasn’t my equal, I wouldn’t be able to find them attractive and I definitely wouldn’t be able to take them seriously.

Any news, @butterfliesandbee, as to how Christmas lunch went? 🥰

Christmas dinner is meat and veg. There is nothing complicated about it. Let him at it. He can clean and tidy the kitchen. In fact you enjoyed his dinner so much you'd love him to cook more often

Swap the glory of Christmas dinner for more frequent dinners made by DH? Sounds like a fair swap to me. Let him at it and enjoy the break from cooking more often.