My own mum and partner don't ever ask about my two children. Used to my mum being non maternal all my life, she will look after kids if asked but makes obvious it's a chore so that it puts me off her having them. Kids are 12 and 10.
My own dad is great but has a demanding job, step mum doesn't help at all and always makes us feel like not her family so not important. Makes it awkward to visit them etc.
MIL and step FIL don't ever message or ask to have kids or ask how they are, see us briefly every few months, What's started to annoy me is that when organised visits or meals out are arranged they either cancel last minute or turn up hours late. This has happened this last week cancelling plans we made with them over Christmas with only three days notice.
Is it too much to ask to have grandparents that actually give a crap. I feel deeply angry all the time over lack of interest. I feel it stems deeply from my own feelings of being unwanted etc from childhood. I want to cut them all off to be honest, my question is am I being unreasonable to feel so strongly.
To add, any meetings, events etc are usually organised by myself and never Instigated my other parties in all of this.
My husband just takes it with a pinch of salt but I feel let down and don't want my kids to feel like this either