Working nights

[Elvisbaby321]

AIBU ?

So any advice needed I currently work nights in a busy a and e I have had to move back home with mom I work 3 x 12 hour shifts on and 2 off my mother has a boyfriend who visits all hours of the day banging around drilling today he came at 3pm ringing the doorbell of course this woke me instantly couldn’t get back to sleep as he was banging around downstairs this isn’t the first time this has happened in fact it’s happened multiple times.

it leaves me exhausted especially when I have to go back on the night as I can’t get back to sleep last time it happened I couldn’t keep my eyes open on shift I was that tired I was sent home.

i tried just discussing it with her and she’s basically got very argumentative and said I can’t even have visitors I haven’t said that I’m saying please ask them not to ring the bell remind them I work nights and to keep the noise down I’m back again tonight I have to sleep at some point but no I’m selfish and rude.

i wouldn’t mind by my mother has done nights and knows it can be exhausting especially when you don’t get enough sleep I’m trying to save up and move out asap as I can’t see it working long term.

ear plugs, an eye mask and a watch that'll vibrate for an alarm. You can't really move into someone's house and tell them how to behave to fit around your work. (Also work hospital nights fwiw).

I absolutely get that I do but I thought someone who has worked nights might understand that I need to sleep at least some point the joke is when we was little we couldn’t even play had to have the tv on low not to flush the toilet because she was on nights I just wish she’d try to understand.

my shift last night was horrendous and extremely busy I didn’t get any break so this morning was exhausted I’m back again tonight and already tired.

I’ll try what you’ve suggested

Your mum is helping you out already. It is too much to ask that she tiptoes around her own home in the day because you do night shifts.

You need better earplugs.

I’m on tonight too, let’s hope everyone stays home (til they all come in really sick on Boxing Day #ifyouknowyouknow).

How long before you can move out?

I hear you last night was just horrendous it’s one of the worst shifts I’ve had in 6 years so many very sick people and just nowhere near enough resources to help any time I was trying to get help everywhere was busy couldn’t even move anyone just so busy.

hopefully in around 10 months I’ll just grin and bear it till then as long as I know it’s temporary I’m gonna try the ear plugs and eye mask .

As a mum I would absolutely be respectful of my adult child living with me who works nights. That’s assuming you are paying your way, contributing equally to the running of the home and respectful to your mum back. I hope your work is as quiet as it can be this Christmas 🤶🏼

I’m paying the rent that’s part in why I’ve had to move back in she can’t afford to live alone won’t get a part time job so is on universal credit which just isn’t stretching at all i discussed with her when i moved in I’d need quiet on nights which she was fine with also just brought a £300 tumble dryer and new cooker because hers broke I have to leave it just isn’t working it’s not even about me if I made a mistake at work and hurt someone I know I couldn’t live with myself hopefully so I truly doubt it though.

Get the Mack’s pillowsoft earplugs. They’re made of silicone and sooooo much better than the foam ones, a real life saver!

Your mum is being a bit of a knob then if she needs you more than you need her. Everyday sounds are expected when you work nights but for her to not even try to accommodate you sleeping in the day is not right. Hope you can move out soon