AIBU to not stay an extra 5 hours at work

[Booksandsea]

My colleague had had their rota changed and it affects her other job. She’s asked if I can stay later. Technically I could as my baby is out with her “father” and not home until an hour after when she’s asked me to stay till. But .. I’ve got things planned to do, wrap presents, prep veg, clean house. I had 3 hours spare I thought; am I an assehole to say no just because I need to get ready

Just say no .you have stuff to do end of.so what if she has a second job.not your problem! Go and enjoy your 3 hours

YANBU. You don't need a reason not to do this. Their changing rota is not your problem (and on the 24th, are you sure it's changed or do they just not want to do those 5 hours?).

I probably would help out, if there’s no other option, but that’s me and depends whether I need the extra money.

I would help out if her other job is being Santa. Otherwise millions of children are going to be upset.

Why make their work problem a problem for you?

Fuck that. Not your issue to solve, regardless of whether you have stuff to do at home or not, thats her monkey/circus to deal with.

No good deed and all that...

Sorry but I agree with the above - she probably just doesn't want to work it either!

If it’s a one off, and you’re not habitually prioritising work over life balance etc, then personally I’d help out. People don’t normally have multiple jobs for the fun of it, and I’d just be grateful I wasn’t off for a second shift myself.

It’s Christmas Eve, you are busy. If the rota change has a knock on effect to her other job she needs to take that up with whoever changed the rota at such short notice.

It'd be a nice thing to do, but you're absolutely not being unreasonable to say no, especially on Christmas Eve.

Yanbu. Your life is not solely about your childcare rota, the fact that your child is elsewhere doesn't mean that nothing you do is important. You need that time and cannot sacrifice it for your colleague's convenience. It's not your problem. Juggling 2 jobs is often hard, especially if both are more likely to need people at Christmas time. She needs to sort this out with her 2 line managers and probably swap ond of the 2 jobs for one with more flexibility. You don't need to shield her from the consequences of her unwise decisions.

If you want to do it, do it.
If you don’t, absolutely do not. I wouldn’t even bother justifying beyond ‘I can’t unfortunately, I’ve got other plans’.
Not their business what those plans are.

Just say no.