Aibu to be feeling a bit deflated this Christmas

[Michscoll89]

Just that really, wondering if the majority would feel this way or if I'm being too sensitive

back story: I moved here for my husband a decade ago, I have 2 DSC that we rotate holidays with (we don't have them this year) and a new baby. I'm very close to my family, but they are all overseas, and I haven't been able to go home for the holidays in 8 years or so. I'm as close as I could be to my in-laws, but not my husbands siblings at all, we both find them extremely non inclusive and would never see them if we weren't the ones organising. We've relocated a few years ago, to the other side of the country, to follow his ex so we could still be around the kids so we far away from his family now. But we always travel to them when invited.

when I asked what the plans were for Christmas his parents told us they planned a holiday away, which his siblings already knew about so we are now just having Christmas the three of us.

we have a good group of friends that we've cultivated since we've moved, but still building close friends and they all have big families they are busy with. I guess I thrive on family time and I'm feeling a bit sad this year that we won't have more loved ones around us, especially for our child to experience.

Just enjoy having a quiet time with your new baby and have a lovely Christmas with them. We used to always turn down invitations and never invited anyone to join us when our DC were little, we relished the lovely time we had just us as a little family together. Merry Christmas 🎅

I think it sounds lovely. Enjoy the experience and cherish this one off Christmas with just the three of you as it might be the only one you will share alone.

You have the opportunity to focus on each other. You have complete freedom to do what you want, when you want. You have your little one but there will be very few Christmases that you and your dh can relax and take it easy for the next 15 years, so perhaps take advantage of this now. Create a few xmas traditions of your own.

Most people crave the idea of their immediate family and no one else. Enjoy the quality time together

So really it's the fact you haven't had chance to see your family and his siblings aren't that bothered with having a relationship. Could you perhaps make it a priority to see your family next year, is there a reason why they haven't visited you, especially as you've just got a baby?
His sibs... there's nothing you can do to fix that situation I'm afraid.

Yeah, I suppose it this. Feeling a bit left out. I would have loved to have had close family here. If my family were driving distance, I know the effort would be made. My parents come to visit us often, my siblings came as well when my dc was born, just not over Christmas as I have a large extended family overseas and for us, because of the schedules with dsc over holidays and the price of flights, it's not manageable unfortunately.

thanks for all the helpful comments, I should be happy I have some time to enjoy our little family and I will look at the positives.