Aibu to be annoyed my partner is out?

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My partner had his works night out Saturday for Xmas and today was a company Christmas meal.
He left at 8amas they had to be at this hotel for 9am.
He told me it finished at 1 and he would go for a couple of drinks and be home.
He text at 1 saying they were getting the train to a different city.
He said he would be home for tea as it’s my birthday tomorrow and with the chaos of Christmas we were going to get a takeaway and watch a Xmas film with a couple of drinks at home.
Anyway he then said we will do that I won’t be late.
He said he would leave at 6
i just rang him and he’s still there (half 7) it takes a hour and a bit to get home.
He said “having loads of fun with the work lot leaving soon”
I am starving and the time he gets in I will want to go to bed.
Aibu ?

Well he's just a selfish git that doesn't give a shit about you is what I'd think (been there)

What! He's a twat, fuck him, order yourself your favourite takeaway and wine and enjoy the evening without him.

Yanbu, it’s a bit shit of him when you had plans .
Get your takeaway now and try to enjoy the rest of your evening .

Make alternative plans for your birthday chill...possibly after Christmas, the 27th or something like that?
He is not going to come in after having fun with a group then vibe with you. He'll be pissed and/or hyped up.

Yes, you can always have the evening to yourself. Nothing wrong with that.

What an asshole. YANBU if you had plans.

How often does he go out? It’s Christmas he’s out celebrating and having a great time, I wouldn’t begrudge my DH that. I’d just get my own take away and watch a film myself

Order your own takeaway now, text him and tell him you will celebrate together another night and enjoy a night relaxing with nice food and the tv to yourself

Don't let him staying out ruin your night. Celebrate with him a different night in dreary January

I was prepared to say YABU but it’s the endless promising of times and your plans and then just not living up to them.

I had two work Christmas dos (two different teams) on the same day. I promised my DH I would be home at X time to make sure DD got to her gymnastics and then went out again afterwards. I followed through and was where I needed to be. I had a third Christmas do (another different team) and said I would be home for bedtimes. I was!

I don’t begrudge my DH going out but I do expect him to be back when he says he will be and to not forget about us completely.

It’s selfish.

Yes you should make the most of it because it’s your birthday. But that doesn’t mean it’s not selfish.

Only you know if it’s a one-off or hardware.

I’ve just ordered myself an Indian as I fancied one for ages ..well he was last out on Saturday night.
I wouldn’t of been annoyed if he had said to Just sort myself out but I’ve been sat around on my own all day as I didn’t feel great and this is the first year in 6 years we haven’t done something for my birthday

This would be me...but then, I am a Cool Wife. Heh.

I think of it as securing the same in return when I get caught up in something.

It’s pretty shit but par for the course on work nights out in my opinion. Both DH and me have both let each other down in the past, with the best of intentions, while on work nights out