To have to do an ‘Emma Thompson’ this Christmas?

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We all know the scene from ‘Love Actually’. AIBU to think I’m not the only one who is doing an Emma Thompson this Christmas? I.e. putting a brave face on whilst everything else crumbles around you?

You can share why you’re Emma Thompsoning your way through the festive period or just give a knowing nod whilst you scream inside.

Me? I’ve split up with my partner as I’ve realised it’s a toxic relationship after an incident last week. I’ve told no one and he’s back home after 4 night away. I am just smiling through it all so our daughter doesn’t have a shit Christmas and more difficult memories to work through in future therapy.

Separation, divorce, grief, bereavement, complicated family, homelessness or financial ruin?

Here’s to getting through the next few days and a brighter 2026!

Yesterday my Mum's nursing home gave her weeks, rather than days or months to live. Today they called out the emergency doctor as she was so poorly this morning. By tea time she was wide awake and singing. I think we may be on this rollercoaster for a little while.

Sending love to everyone.

Broken relationship with DD on top of general exhaustion, literally mad ex, is making me wish i could just skip the whole thing. But trying (not sure how well) to keep going for DS and DF

Lost my husband to a heart attack coming up for 5 yrs ago now, during the New Year bank holiday period.

I keep getting friends and relatives brightly asking what my plans are for Christmas day, each assuming that I'll be spending the day with another friend or relative. [I have no siblings and no children.]

I've been pasting a smile on my face and telling them that I'm going to enjoy a quiet Christmas at home.

The worst was when a relative became very upset and said that I should be spending Christmas with him and his family, but 'there's no room at the table'. I then had to reassure him that I was fine and really looking forward to time on my own to 'potter about'.

Oh...and if one more person tells me to get myself a dog or a cat there's every chance that you'll see news reports of a pensioner being charged with attempted murder.

I’m so sorry, for each and every one of you. I have my grumbles but the other posters on this thread are dealing with such awful grief and loss and unbearable troubles. Sending gentle hugs and I wish you better times in 2026 ❤️

A bit, yeah. We are TTC and I'm quite sure it's another month with a BFN. I think having anything like this in your mind csn make the pressure to have a good time feel more difficult. I guess the trick is.to.docus on what you do have.

Ok her name was Karen. Are you happy now?
To everyone else on here going through hard times yes women are amazing at toughing it, out getting on with it and just living life.
Xmas can be testing for the happiest and healthiest of us and I do think we should all cut ourselves a bit of slack and give ourselves some self love.

My Dad died last Monday, he only got told the cancer was terminal 2 months ago. The decline from looking ok and sort of being ok to his death was terrifying and horrifying. I havent told my 4 year old yet im trying to get through his birthday and Christmas first. Our cat died too. Ive really had enough im exhausted with it all

Am in tears reading these posts sending strength and hugs to all

I imagine she wouldnt give a fuck.

I’m pulling an Emma Thompson because I too have split with my partner but it’s been a very long split and I’m feeling bad asking him to please leave for Christmas (even though it was agreed months ago he would do and then last week he told me he hadn’t made plans and I should ‘know’ he doesn’t plan ahead…and now it’s all my fault he has nowhere to go - apparently I’ve only given him ‘two days notice’ which is complete bollocks)

I’m so sorry. That’s a very lonely place for you to be. Sending love for you and your son.

Tough times here too. Mum has dementia, dad is struggling every day and on the verge of having to put her in a home, DH has been out of work most of the year due to serious depression, my work is precarious and risk of redundancy so I'm working and studying hard, 2 teens who always have something going on.. feeling everyone leaning on me and I'm so tired of it! With elderly parents you never know if it's the last Xmas together so just got to try to all enjoy it together.

18 months ago I got told my cancer had returned, it had spread, and I had 18 months to live.

I’ve fallen out with my DH this year. We’ve spent hours talking and crying. It’s not going well.
my 2 young children don’t know anything is wrong.

once again, I’ll be plastering on a smile and making the most of every minute with my children. I look at them and my heart shatters with grief for them.

im sorry the women here are having their own troubles. One problem doesn’t trump another.

You are all seen. merry Christmas to you all.

I want to say Karen. But doubt that would've made a better title!

Anyway Emma T'ing it this Christmas due to bereavement, a newly fractured family dynamic and generalized fucking sky high anxiety.

I can empathise a bit with this. Luckily don't have ppd but have a very clingy / whingy (I feel terrible saying that) / screamy baby and PILs especially love to tell us to 'just put her down'. She's wonderful in every way she just doesn't like playing alone! Like yours, she's always been this way, since the day she born. Getting quite tired of people implying that she is this way because I've spoiled her. She's not even 1!

My baby was born sleeping at 5 months in September but I have a 2.5 year old so very much putting on a brave face despite it all. She was due in two weeks making this all the harder. But on we go.

Yes it was. I love it. Despite not appreciating how she did one of those “ohhh yes people are annoying being obsessed with that scene” comments - which always seems just so sneery to an audience who connected with something you did (which is surely what an actor wants no?)

and really, I’m sure most actors would be glad to have their name kept out there. Use the character’s name (what even was it?) and ET gets none of the name-recognition-benefit.

I'm so sorry everyone. Life is very hard at times, and I'm sure it must be tiring to pretend to enjoy a Christmas when you just want to hide.
Thinking of you all x

@Jannieb18 I’m so sorry. My parents had cancer at the same time too. Similar scenario- when Dad got ill we assumed it was stress from having to care for mum but no, he had cancer too. They died within ten weeks of each other. Worst year of my life and it took a long time to recover from the trauma. Sending you strength and hope. 💐

And thoughts to all of you dealing with bereavement, divorce, illness and any other challenges this Christmas.

I just want to give all of you a hug and hope you somehow manage to have a good Christmas in some way. Be kind to yourselves. Not sure what else to say 😞

Accidentally uncovered H's affair three days ago. I'm staying until after Christmas because I can't let DD spend Christmas day in somewhere like temp accommodation- I have nowhere to go and no money, he won't leave because this is his house.

I spent today locked away crying and wrapping presents. I have to work Christmas Day so at least I don't have to see his family.

Oh, and all my hair if falling out. So at least I know I won't ever have to bother trying to date again, I can be fat, ugly, and alone forever.

My beautiful dog died this week. I'm heart broken and doing my best Emma impression for everybody else.

I'm sure Emma Thompson wouldn't say something nitpicky and unkind on a thread where people are sharing great pain. There's always one, isn't there?
OP and others, I'm so sorry for all you're going through. I've had a tough year this year as well with ill health, (both physical and mental) but I won't be white knuckling through Christmas, I'm actually looking forward to a few days off. I do hope that 2026 is a brighter year for all of us.

Much rather equate to the character. ET is a total fanny, would never want to align myself to her.

I am so sorry to hear this. My dad died last August and that was bad enough. Sending lots of love