Covid/fluey Christmas… feeling so overwhelmed and upset!!!

[Merrycrisis]

I’ve had a horrible virus thing for 10 days now. I’m not one to complain usually but this has knocked me off my feet. I’ve barely left my bed in those 10 days. Fever, vomiting, a cough that makes me sound like a 60 a day smoker, headaches, fatigue, sore eyes, rashes, ulcers on my tongue, cold sores up my nose.

I’ve tried everything - dosed myself up on paracetamol, honey and lemon, cough syrups, cough sweets, gallons of water, hot drinks, ice lollies, echinacea.

im getting about 3 hours of sleep a night. Vomiting up most stuff I eat. Drs have told me it’s viral and to wait it out. I’ve not showered in nearly a week because it tires me out so much!

I’ve got a million presents to wrap (mostly for DC4 who I can’t not wrap for!), I need to shower and make an effort to get to my mums tomorrow for the annual Christmas Eve lunch (in our culture Christmas Eve is present swapping, meal, the main event). I’ve not been able to eat anything today apart from dry toast.

Mum and family have said they’ll be so sad if I can’t get there tomorrow. But I can’t do anything. DH has been fab and got food ib for me and looked after me, but I think even he’s getting a bit fed up with how long this is going on!

Any tips on how to pull myself together for tomorrow and Christmas Day?! Anyone in the same boat?

Wtf why are you trying to get to your mums tomorrow? They can guilt you all they want but things will be much worse if you go and make an elderly person ill.

Hope you feel better soon OP 💐 awful time of year to be so poorly 🥲

This sounds similar to what my youngest is suffering with- awful cough going on constantly through the night, she vomited last night, but only once.

God, you're really ill. You can't go anywhere. People can be disappointed. Arrange another get-together when you're better.

Stay in bed tomorrow or try and shower mid morning, 20 mins after medication with a cup of tea and then go back to bed.

DH can do the wrapping.

Sending hugs. That sounds awful. Can your DH help with wrapping? Do the minimum, although if you can shower, you might feel better (although worn out from the effort).

I wouldn't go to the lunch tomorrow and risk spreading it to your relatives. They won't thank you.

Many years ago my partner at the time and I went to my mums for Christmas dinner as it was her first Christmas without my dad so despite having flu we went. My partner had to go for a lie down after lunch he felt so poorly. My mum got it. She was not impressed!

Stay at home so you can recover and you also won't pass it on to others.

Stay in bed tomorrow op. You are too ill. Just rest. Tell your mum tonight that you won’t be there.

Stay home you will still be contagious and you don’t want to end up worse.

We have norovirus here. DD went down Sunday night. I just got in from work in time yesterday and ceremonially handed on the bucket to DH today. I thought he might escape it as he has kept well clear of us. I knew I was doomed as I spent the whole of Sunday night cuddling a human fountain in our bed and emptying the bucket. DH scarpered to the spare bed in his office and stayed well clear in the hope of keeping one of us safe. In his culture Christmas eve is the main meal event and my 82 year old mum was due to be coming round but I have just told her it is postponed to later this week. Sad but we can eat a meal any time. Passing this on to her would be horrendous.

Poor you, sounds awful. But if you go tomorrow you might be vomiting, you might not have showered for a week, and you might pass whatever it is that you have onto your family. Don’t let them guilt trip you into going as you really don’t sound well enough. You can always do something nice with them when you are better.

You can’t just ‘pull yourself together’ with an illness like this. You are not fit to go out. You can’t eat and are not sleeping properly. Viral illnesses can take two weeks or more to clear sometimes and even then you may need a few days to get back to normal.

Rest up at home, let Xmas do its thing elsewhere, and arrange something nice for the new year. Your family will understand, and if they don’t, they really should.

You're going to have to fit Christmas around your illness not your illness around Christmas, I'm afraid.
So unless your mum has a bedroom waiting for you and the family intend to bring you the meals you can manage and entertain your DC while you rest, it's not a good idea. Christmas day, same thing. Everyone needs to plan for you being out of action and prepare the day around that. Then what you can do is a bonus.
The most stress and misery comes from trying (and often failing) to act like there's nothing wrong, rather than accepting it and having a plan B to make the best of the circumstances you're in.