Family dilemma

[Girlmum72]

Hey
First time posting and looking for some advice.
Mil is always making excuses as to why she can't visit mainly due to not being able to leave her pet. We can't visit her as my children are afraid of her pet that she hasn't trained.
Mil booked a meal for us and SIL and her children bearing in mind SIL never bothers with our children to the point we haven't seen her in years this being since I stopped making the effort as it was always one sided with myself offering to visit etc.
MIL has booked a meal for all of us, my husband, children, herself, her partner, SIL and her children. Am I being unreasonable to not attend this meal considering I've made countless efforts for MIL to visit and it's always thrown back at me as well as SIL never having anything to do with us.
Partner is saying he's fed up that we see my family but they make the effort. Feeling fed up and deflated by it all.

Should of mentioned SIL and MIL partners always makes comments on our parenting more so annoying when her partner doesn't have his own children.

They are rude, hostile and not very nice to be around.

I have said DH can go with our children or on his own. Our children don't want to go either and I don't want to force them.

Yanbu x

It was me. I wouldnt bother going. X

So you are miffed that SIL is invited too? You are BU, can't blame your MIL for inviting both her kids and family at the same time.

You've said you've made lots of efforts but you refuse to visit because of her pet, so what effort have you made?

She's making efforts right now, not sure what else you want from her, it's only a meal

yeah this
You want your MIL to see your kids = she's organised a meet up
You want your SIL to bother with your kids = she's going to attend
You don't want to go to your MIL's house = she's booked a pub
Your DH wants to go.

What more do you want?