My mother has made my life absolute hell. Since being a child - but now I’m an adult and I’m not fully in her “control” it’s awful.
she goes in huffs with me, ignores me for months and says it’s in my head, every significant life event, think graduation, marriage, child birth etc she stops talking to me. I lost a child at 22 weeks - my next child I was terrified of losing in pregnancy and needed her, she shut me out and when I called her breaking my heart she would say “my signal is bad” and hang up. She then weasels her way back in because I’m so desperate for my mum to like me. She tries to financially worm her way in by treating me to lunches or helping with childcare and I think “this is it, she’s changed!” and then throws it in my face that I am ungrateful and “take” if I dare disagree with an opinion of hers.
i am convinced my dad is scared of her.
she’s ignored me all week when I’ve asked when we can exchange Xmas gifts (because I’m no longer invited on Christmas Eve which has always been tradition). Then randomly texted my today saying she would come to my house for 3. I changed my plans. Called her at 2 to say I was passing hers going home - should I just pop in. All hell broke loose “I’m at yours now and you’re not here… I have things to do I can’t and won’t wait” (it would take me 10 mins to get home. Husband was in and his car on the drive she didn’t knock and go in. Spoke to me like shit and will probably now ignore me for the next month. Left kids gifts and called back to say she wouldn’t leave mine (fine)
I can’t continue this cycle of shit.