Name changed for this as my AIBU is sex related! Semi light hearted!!!
Background: Married 15 years, two young DC, healthy sex life and, like others, probably have a lot still to do before Christmas! DH involved and engaged dad, has done his fair share in the lead up but most of the mental load of Xmas falls to me.
Today my DPs are taking the kids out all day for a festive treat. Both myself and DH off work. I am a bit of a planner so had lots of lists of things that were best done without the kids in the house in the lead up to Christmas (we are hosting)
DH mentions to me yesterday that as we don’t have the kids, this morning might be an opportunity to have some early morning fun. We are usually limited to post kids bedtime when we’re both knackered anyway. I agreed…good opportunity and I could use a de-stress but also made it clear we had a LOT to get done the rest of the day.
Cue this morning and we cheerfully wave off the children and hop back into bed at 9am. DH likes a lot of talk in bed and I could tell we were in for a long session! I often fumble with what to say as sexy talk doesn’t come naturally…
Anyway, he kept whispering in my ear and asking what I was thinking. Now, I think as a woman, it’s pretty normal when stressed to not be 100% focused on the activity in hand! But I kept thinking of things to say. But he kept asking again and again and I had all these lists whirling around my head
Eventually I sort of lost it and said ‘If you must keep asking Dave, I’m wondering if we have enough viakal to clean the bathroom and the downstairs loo!’
Well that pretty quickly soured the mood!
DH now downstairs making us both bacon butties and muttering to himself that it wasn’t his idea of sexy talk! In fairness, we were nearly 2 hours in and time is a-ticking!
So, was I unreasonable to be honest about what’s really on my mind in the lead up to hosting Xmas?