I left a beloved team and boring job to go to my ideal job.
previous job was 9-5 3 days a week, many of the days at home.
I needed something more stimulating so started new job, out of the house, school hours mon~Fri.
I have a long term condition which causes pain and fatigue.
this new job suits my family life much better, I can start later and the kids come home and I’ve completely finished work and we’re free to do whatever we want after school, as opposed to my 9-5 role which meant they’re neglected they got home and cooking their own tea etc and I’d be too tired to do anything at all but I had two days off to recuperate.
it became apparent very early on that the new job isnt a great fit.
everything i stand for and the employers stand for are completely mismatched, it’s very much left me in a position where im either frequently constantly challenging, considering whistleblowing or just walking out.
lots of things aren’t as they seemed during the application and interview process and subsequent onboarding.
there’s too much to list here but I’ve given it six months as all my friends suggested and it’s not really got any better. I don’t challenge as much because I’ve already got one foot out the door but I’m not comfortable with the things I pretend to overlook.
everyone else just gets on with it and just moans behind the bosses backs.
i bloody love the work and im really proud of it especially with zero support, no induction, chaotic managers and a team of bullies and people unhappy with the hierarchy but just getting on with it, heads down.
long story short. A job has come up in my old office building, not the same as my old job but adjacent to and likely to be harder than my current job but is predominantly wfh.
im familiar with their systems, it is is less hours and more structured management and processes, its a large business rather than small business where I am now.
I’d been led to believe we were part of a larger project with partners cooperative but it transpired my boss’s are not partaking in said partnership and just maverick around the place with minimal oversight, making up rules as they go along, proper old boys network.
so, wwyd?
stay in a job you’re good at that pays well and is stimulating, hours good for the kids but you get no down time during the week to help pace yourself through illness so wiped out and can’t do anything on evenings and weekends and are constantly having to bite your tongue so you don’t look rude and disrespectful
or
try for a role somewhere you miss working (in a different team from your old one)
where you’ll work longer days but less hours and only in the office once a week
It’s less rewarding and stimulating, will be harder work but familiar work and so much more clean and structured work with oversight and protocols and all the normal things I’d expect from an employer
i haven’t even completed the application yet but wanted to mull it over on here please!
YABU = you are being unreasonable if you leave
YANBU = you are being unreasonable if you stay