Partner inviting sister for Christmas….

Frazzled252 · 2025-12-22T22:50:04+00:00

We were due to have my family over for Christmas but they decided to make other plans. We’ve had a rough year, doing IVF, and I suggested going to a hotel. Partner agreed but then has invited his sister as she’d be alone before I had booked anything. I am livid. AIBU?

Namechangeforthis88 · 22/12/2025 22:53

Invited his sister to hotel?

Also, timeline of events?

Hankunamatata · 22/12/2025 22:56

Surely she can book herself into hotel too?

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 22/12/2025 23:01

How thoughtful of him not leaving his sister on her own on Christmas day. Why is that so wrong?

AwfullyGood · 22/12/2025 23:03

If one of my siblings was alone for Christmas, I would be inviting them to join me. I wouldn't be impressed if my partner objected.

Also you were due to have your family over - why is your family more acceptable than his?

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Frazzled252 · 22/12/2025 23:09

AwfullyGood · 22/12/2025 23:03

If one of my siblings was alone for Christmas, I would be inviting them to join me. I wouldn't be impressed if my partner objected.

Also you were due to have your family over - why is your family more acceptable than his?

I’ve made a newer post with more detail. His family are really evil to me, for no reason. One of his sisters has never even met me, but calls me every name under the sun and called me a prostitute. They’re really abnormal horrible people which he is aware of.

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sesquipedalian · 22/12/2025 23:10

If you’re going to an hotel for Christmas, I really don’t see the problem - it’s not as though she would be sharing your room, and it’s not like hosting. It would be pretty mean to leave DSis all on her own for Christmas.

Soonenough · 22/12/2025 23:11

If she hates you that much she probably won't come .

XWKD · 22/12/2025 23:13

Frazzled252 · 22/12/2025 23:09

I’ve made a newer post with more detail. His family are really evil to me, for no reason. One of his sisters has never even met me, but calls me every name under the sun and called me a prostitute. They’re really abnormal horrible people which he is aware of.

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And what about the sister who was invited?

Sohelpmegod25 · 22/12/2025 23:15

I’d be thinking twice about getting involved with someone with an awful family, that’s always going to be an issue realistically isn’t it?
Nice he doesn’t want his sister on her own tho but look at the bigger picture here OP - I was in a similar situation with my ex and when we split up I was more relieved to be rid of his Jeremy Kyle style family than I was upset he’d left me for someone else!
you live and learn as they say!

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Frazzled252 · 22/12/2025 23:23

Soonenough · 22/12/2025 23:11

If she hates you that much she probably won't come .

This is the reason I’m so annoyed, he’s told her I’m working! He knows I will
leave if she comes so hasn’t mentioned me so he doesn’t have to explain why I’m not there if she does come

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theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 22/12/2025 23:24

Why have you started two threads about the same thing?

jetlag92 · 22/12/2025 23:26

I think that both you families are trying to tell you it's not a great relationship

And it is really difficult to move on. I did in my late 20's and met someone much nicer and you can too

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Frazzled252 · 22/12/2025 23:27

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 22/12/2025 23:24

Why have you started two threads about the same thing?

I made one with more detail, I thought I’d deleted this one but hadn’t

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carcioffi · 22/12/2025 23:28

So he’s replaced you with her for Christmas? Unknowingly she’s ousted you? And he’s manipulated it.
Get rid.

LordBummenbachsMagnificentBalls · 22/12/2025 23:33

Why would you stay with a partner who allows his family to treat you that way anyway?

FuzzyWolf · 22/12/2025 23:35

Surely this is the least of your worries. Why are you putting so much into trying to have a baby with someone like him?

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Frazzled252 · 22/12/2025 23:44

FuzzyWolf · 22/12/2025 23:35

Surely this is the least of your worries. Why are you putting so much into trying to have a baby with someone like him?

I always think it’s not him it’s them. But he doesn’t shield me from them at all

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RawBloomers · 23/12/2025 00:50

Frazzled252 · 22/12/2025 23:44

I always think it’s not him it’s them. But he doesn’t shield me from them at all

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He's a fucking dick to you to have invited his DSis over expecting you to go off on your own, so it sounds like it's them AND him, it's not just that he doesn't shield you.

caringcarer · 23/12/2025 00:56

AwfullyGood · 22/12/2025 23:03

If one of my siblings was alone for Christmas, I would be inviting them to join me. I wouldn't be impressed if my partner objected.

Also you were due to have your family over - why is your family more acceptable than his?

This. Season of goodwill and all that. It's one day he's invited her for not a month.

Pallisers · 23/12/2025 01:03

Just dump your boyfriend and all your troubles will be over.

Pallisers · 23/12/2025 01:04

and for god's sake don't have a baby with this man.

Itiswhysofew · 23/12/2025 01:07

What is he doing?!

Maddy70 · 23/12/2025 01:45

Frazzled252 · 22/12/2025 23:09

I’ve made a newer post with more detail. His family are really evil to me, for no reason. One of his sisters has never even met me, but calls me every name under the sun and called me a prostitute. They’re really abnormal horrible people which he is aware of.

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One of his sister's...but not this one ?

Pineapplewaves · 23/12/2025 08:50

Go and spend Christmas somewhere else - can you join your family (they might be happy to have you if your partner isn’t coming), can you book the hotel for you only? Make plans to leave him, don’t put up with this for the rest of your life. Your partner has chosen his sister over you…..

MaggieFS · 23/12/2025 09:04

Why are you staying with, and trying so hard to have a baby with someone who doesn’t have any respect for you?