How often do you meet up with friends?

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Couple friends of ours are very sociable, will happily have socialising plans 6-8 times a week, mix of weekend and midweek.
We are sociable but just less so! We need recharge time from work, due to our personalities/jobs. Average of 1-3 plans a week, id say. Mostly weekend. We love it when we have no plans and can have a day to ourselves doing something spontaneously, other couple have said things that lead me to believe they both feel a bit like its a 'wasted' day when that happens. We are happy with booking things months in advance, or 'free for coffee today' plans. Not fussy.
Neither of us have kids, all of us have other friends/families/hobbies/pets that take up our time.
Disposable income - ours is more tied up than theirs, so about twice a year we will have to say no to something because we already have it allocated to x social occasions coming up and will suggest a cheaper meetup.
Myself and the woman of this couple are in a group chat with another friend which we all chat in probably... 3/4 days a week? All reply the same amount, show interest in other people's lives etc, nice and friendly. Meetup just the women probably 4-6 times a year.
This couple do suggest to meetup slightly more than we do, simply because its their main... hobby, i guess you could call it! Whereas we have a few other things occupying our brainspace too, life wise. But I think we are unavailable for their suggested dates more than they are for ours, simply due to other commitments, so it probably feels like more on our end? We always suggest alternatives dates, which often they cant do because they are busy, or suggest cheaper meetups if the plans are out of our budget.
All this to say, we see then probably once a month, sometimes more sometimes less, for example we had a gap of 2 months in the summer then saw them twice in a month.

This seems fairly normal to me... but they've been making 'subtle' barbed comments for a while that we dont see each other enough, or dont make the effort (I can 100% say for certain that we do make the effort, but will own up to the fact its probably 60/40 to them as they will often suggest the next meetup while we are in the middle of one)

So, thoughts?
I think we meet up a decent amount, I can see how they might think they make more effort to make plans than us,butt when they do its because they are making the next plans mid-meetup (great! Just not something we think to do very often)
Happy to be told im wrong on this, im just getting very tired of the barbed comments and wanted to make sure ive considered all perspectives before I approach them to see whats going on.

Another problem is that they are quite particular... now, I have lots of friends with varying preferences and and I have a couple of friends who have thanked me because im very 'go with the flow' and am happy to change, but I feel like I am all give and none back from this couple, but I also feel like if they suggest date A, and we suggest B because we cant make A, even though they are free on B, they feel like they've 'compromised' for us?
There is also an ongoing thing where if they invite people round to their house, they expect the person to host them at their own home in return and think its rude if you dont. Maybe I am being dense, but I dont really see why this matters, im just happy to see my friends and I hate the idea of someone feeling like they HAVE to host?

Relieved to see other posters who meet friends less frequently. I probably do twice a month. I have a few close friends who I probably see every 2-3 months on average. To be fair most are a 45 min+ drive a way. I see some more some less. To be fair I’ve found a lot of people go out less since Covid. 6-8 times a week would stress me out, although once I retire I’d probably want to socialise 1-2 a week rather than a month.

Three or four times each year, four or five days each time. Love every time.

We've retired now to a city with friends nearby so will probably meet up for lunches/dinners more often.

I have a wide social group and see someone from my circle almost every day. When I am in the office this could be coffee or a walk with a colleague (ive worked there a while and have colleagues who are close friends), when i wfh this might be a dog walk, after work drinks or having someone over for dinner. Most weekends i see friends and/or family for games nights, shared hobbies (gym, meditation, hiking, dancing, pottery). I am a sociable person and it makes me happy but i have different friends for different things - some i see every week, others twice a year. I certianly dont grumble if people arent free, personally i would address the barbed comments and just have an open conversation about exoectations - if they are true friends it should be a conversation you can havd?

Its good to hear from someone like yourself - yes im hoping I can just have a conversation with them, im trying to figure out the best way about it as naturally id say 'you want, I want y, lets compromise and meet in the middle' but that just feels obligation-y. It has already started to feel like an obligation to be honest because who wants to hang out with someone where you are just waiting for them to make a dig at you... I dont get the impression that its because we're such delightful company either. I just think they think they should be socialising all the time and that as we fit their category of close friends, then we should be seeing each other lots more. They do stuff just the two of them, but I genuinely think at least one of them feels depressed if they have a few days 'off'... but then they will go on holiday together and its fine, maybe thats because its a new place (they will be up from 8am out doing stuff on holiday, which good for them!)
A couple of times, myself and my partner have mentioned having done something locally at the weekend, just the two of us, because we saw it and decided to go, and instead of saying 'oh that sounds fun! We'd be up for going next time, if you fancied some company' they will say things like 'we were free that day and we would have liked that, why didnt you call us?' Its just... exhausting.

How old are they?!

We're all in our thirties. No kids which makes a difference to people's stamina!

Yeah that sounds a bit intense, i can only do so much because my DC are all older now and have their own lives, when they were younger a lot more of my time was spent on family stuff. Everyones social batteries are different, true friends should know and respect that!

I hate when it is like an expectation in terms of how much you need to see someone. I had a friend like that and it became much too intense and demanding. My true friendships there are no expectations or pressures. They’re friends - you’re not also in a relationship with them. You’ve got a partner for that. I think it’s completely unreasonable they’re making the barby comments and I wouldn’t be putting up with that personally.