Aibu to wonder why people put themselves through hell, travelling all over the place/visiting obnoxious family or bending over backwards to cater to family who won’t compromise at Christmas?
Every year on here you see it and I see it in real life too.
I know someone who visits her in laws every other year. She ends up in tears because she doesn’t want to go. Apparently their house is freezing, filthy with animal poo everywhere. She and her husband have to drive around half the day picking up various relatives. They have to drag their young children away from their toys. Then, when they get there the host hasn’t even started dinner and gets them involved in peeling potatoes and veg, there’s never enough food and they don’t eat until very late.
They are friends of ours and dh and I suggested that they just don’t go anymore. Invite the in laws to stop by at theirs. But she wouldn’t hear of it. She feels obliged to go.
A lot of people think dh and I are selfish because we spend Christmas Day at home. We always say that people are welcome to pop round for a drink and a mince pie, and we make sure that we do see everyone at some point over the holidays.
Obviously if you enjoy a big family gathering and it suits you then that’s wonderful, but I’m talking about people who don’t want to go out, but feel forced.
Aibu to think that, especially when you e young children you should do what pleases yourself?