To want to drink what i want to drink

[ThedaBara]

I promise this is light-hearted and i am aware that there are people with real problems out there.

I'm not much of a drinker these days but we are entertaining whole family for Christmas and I wanted to get some nice wine.

I've been to a few interesting locations this year and wanted to get wines that I had tried from these regions, so ordered online. About £20 per bottle, nothing too crazy, but not easily available in a brick and mortar shop.

Courier has lost the box. I've been in a hump all weekend.
DH has 'helpfully' told me that nobody will notice or care, and that we could drink the plonk he won at a raffle, or whatevers on offer at Aldi, or presumably dirty ditch water. Christmas is all about sitting down together as a family. But what about what i want!!!

My DB is on DHs side, im making a mountain out of nothing apparently.
Thoughts?

What form did the “hump” take?

If you’re taking it out on others or being silent with them YABU

If you’re just disappointed but treating others as normal YANBU

(Editing to correct the autocorrect error)

YABU for ‘being in a hump all weekend’ about it, when other decent options are easily available.

YWNBU to complain to the retailer(s) and seek a discount or other recompense.

Being grumpy about the lost delivery isn't going to get you what you want. Unless you simply want to be grumpy. That's my take.
Yes, disappointing. No, not worth dwelling on it when it doesn't actually get you your nice wine anyway.

I dunno, if a bloke was in a "hump" all weekend because their wine delivery was lost, everyone would be saying he was an alcoholic and that his wife should get her ducks in a row.

Yes, it's annoying but being in a hump about it is ridiculous.

The hump manifested itself in me doing normal activities with the children like baking and walks in the park, cleaning the bathroom grumpily, and muttering dark curses to DH. I'm sure he is sick of hearing all about it, but it is making me feel a bit better.
I'll get the money back

Well it's not your husband fault is it

Why are you being grumpy with your DH?

I would also be disappointed but similarly, while you won't have the specific nice wine you wanted, maybe a trip to a nice wine shop for some other nice wine ?

You don't have to go from fancy wine you've ordered to raffle wine

They see you are upset about it and are trying to minimise the problem to make you feel better. And it's not the end of the world if the wine isn't as good as you intended. Annoying though, any chance it will still arrive?

Just go oit and buy some nice wine in the next three days.

Do you have a wine shop nearby?

Oh no I'm on your side OP, I save up all year to buy my Christmas wine cases and pick more unusual stuff I wouldn't normally buy (I'm a £4 Aldi plonk kind of woman lmao) so I'd be in a right strop if it had gone awry.

You have got to try to get over this.

There is nothing more tedious than someone who can’t stop dwelling on a minor disappointment or inconvenience and insists on dragging everyone down with them, and trying to convert them to the belief that this is an actual catastrophe worth ruining a weekend over.

I have relatives who do this and I would absolutely dread spending time with them as it was all just neverending grievance and complaint.

You’re not unreasonable to be frustrated and disappointed but if you’ve been in ‘a hump’ and moaning all weekend go your DP he is not unreasonable to be saying it doesn’t matter. To be honest there isn’t much more he could say is there? It’s not his fault its got lost and he’s not wrong to say Christmas is about family. In the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter and it’s not like you can’t go out and buy nice wine, even if not the exact same wines, from a local shop. Most supermarkets sell some nicer wines or you probably have a shop that specialises in alcohol within driving distance. It would be far more productive to try and at least get some nice wine as an alternative rather than just moan at your DP all weekend.

OP did say it was lighthearted everyone, so I don't think she's quite the mood black hole some of you are imagining.

YANBU to be disappointed OP especially if you're the one who's tasked with trying to make sure everyone has the things that are special for them at Christmas and now the thing that is special to you has gone missing. Grumpy bathroom cleaning doesn't sound particularly excessive in the circumstances and suggesting you drink raffle wine is about as helpful as if the cheese order had gone missing and your DH suggested unwrapping a few babybels instead.

Sorry OP, you're being a bit of a dick if you're going around the house in a foul mood over a lost wine delivery.

I'd kick my partner's arse for that.

Oh dear, i did say it was lighthearted!
I'm not spoiling anyone else's mood, and I'm not an alcoholic! I will have to take my life in my hands and head into town to find alternatives. DH thinks I'm being pathetic and he finds it amusing, i wouldn't bother telling him if he didnt

I've just stocked up at Lidl. They have some nice bottles and an offer of 30% off three bottles of their "deluxe" wines.
Also, their Cava is infinitely better than a lot of supermarkets Prosecco. Just saying. Cheers. 🍷🍷🍷

Pop down to Majestic, if you have one nearby, and grab a mix 6 case. They have a good selection from around the globe.

I'd imagine because he 'consoled' her by telling her that other people won't mind. Completely missing that OP herself is a person too, and does mind. Gets a bit tiresome I imagine to be regarded as a person who should have no complaints as long as everyone else OK.

Thank you so much, that's it exactly