My Nan very sadly and unexpectedly died last night so my mum understandably does not want to do Christmas. She was meant to be hosting, so we are going to sort something out at home with our kids and my FIL just us as we have to still do Christmas for the kids.
I said to my husband it is making me feel even guiltier that we are going to see his sister abroad next Christmas, which my parents don’t currently know. My dad is poorly, and my brother who doesn’t know we are planning to go, casually said he wouldn’t have a Christmas away from my dad in case it’s his last.
So my parents won’t see their only grandchildren this year or next and my brother’s words are ringing in my ears. I said maybe we should rethink going to see his sister next year.
My husband said no we’re going as he hasn’t seen his sister at Christmas for ages - but I think that’s her choice. She’s invited every year and doesn’t have kids herself but chooses not to come.
He then threw in my face that his mum didn’t get her final Christmas with the grandchildren due to covid (we hadn’t known she was poorly at the time just bad luck).
Am I being unreasonable to want to chancel going to his sister next year?