Friend sending Girlfrend topless gym selfies...

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Man here. Ive recently seen a picture on my girlfriends phone from a friend of ours. He is a lot younger than us.

Now the pic is of him striking a pose with no top on. It was sent via social media DM.

She didn't shut it down, she said "looking good"

There is general chat, how's work, what are you doing this week and us. He then repeats things to me about the "us" conversations but doesnt directly mention them. Its almost like hes playing with me as only my GF and I know this info. I didnt look too far back so unsure if there are others.

I asked her about it and she just said its just ": being himself and she cant help what he sends her. Ive said she should've shut it down which she agrees however I cant help but feel hurt as she didnt tell me about it and didnt shut it down. She has previously enjoyed the attention of a man who kept staring at her on a night out. She denied noticing but it was obvious she did. Maybe she enjoys the attention.

AIBU to consider finishing things with her?

As I said above women on MN do the same thing yet that's ok ,but because op is a man it's wrong.

Do you want to be with a hypocrite?

Everyday sexism

Your friend is sending semi nudes to your gf and he's the type to try and shag someone who's not single.

It's your friend you should be dumping, not your gf.

The stuff you're saying about her 'enjoying being stared at by men' despite her denying it makes you sound controlling and insecure. So maybe it'd be better if you did spilt up.

But then again you'd be the same with another girl? So perhaps you should look internally at your own actions as well as what others are doing?

I asked her about it and she just said its just ": being himself and she cant help what he sends her.

We all know if he was out of shape and 30 years her senior she would have found a way to shut it down.

Throw her back!

Sorry, what on earth has this got to do with anything? My question wasn't for you, it was for op, and he doesn't seem to have answered yet.

No it's not. Many of the threads in those cases are posts saying it's a breach of trust and/or it's already over if you feel the need to check a phone. I don't agree with that personally as a blanket thing, but the reason for checking her phone here is either unfounded suspicion or founded suspicion. That's factual.

How is he playing with you if the message was not to you?

“She has previously enjoyed the attention of a man who kept staring at her on a night out. She denied noticing but it was obvious she did. Maybe she enjoys the attention.”

What made it obvious?

Look you can finish with anybody for any reason. If you feel uncomfortable end it.

Your girlfriend's vanity is allowing her to be willfully blind to the fact that this young chancer is playing games. If he was seriously interested in her for her then he wouldn't be making sure you know about it. For some reason he wants to compete with you, so is certainly not your friend, and I'd be binning him pretty sharpish if I were you.
Your GF is having her head turned (quite literally) and in no hurry to put a stop to the flattering attention. How far she'll go to keep that coming is anyone's guess. But it's a threat to your relationship, and I think you need to spell that out. Tell her that he's making a point of rubbing your nose in it, that you're both being played and you want her to stop.
Don't be fobbed off with the 'just a friend' thing. He's not acting as friend to either of you.

Is she a gym girl? It’s not uncommon for gym fans to show each other their progress