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AIBU?

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Friend has sent me a gift am I ungrateful ?

17 replies

inkyspells · 22/12/2025 08:59

So my friend has sent me a gift from Amazon for my birthday .
Only thing is it needs a signature so I have to be in.
Yesterday I had to do the food shop so missed them.
Today I’ve got loads to do ,meant to be meeting another friend today for tea but I feel awful if I miss this delivery.
She’s asked me to stay home today and wait for it but I honestly don’t think I can.
aibu ?
im waiting in as long as possible till 1 pm but then I need to go out and then il be back at 3 but can only leave at 5 the latest.

OP posts:

LemonLass · 22/12/2025 09:03

Sounds like booze? Produce ID type of delivery. If you want, prioritise delivery. As you have other commitments, only you can decide.

Sending a gift is thoughtful but not convenient of you have other commitments

DinoLil · 22/12/2025 09:04

Can you not collect it from the sorting office when you have a moment?

Saz12 · 22/12/2025 09:06

You should be able to rearrange for collection? Or your friend can.

LadyKenya · 22/12/2025 09:06

Collect it from the depot. Being grateful, or not, has nothing to do with being inconvenienced.

1offnamechange · 22/12/2025 09:09

DinoLil · 22/12/2025 09:04

Can you not collect it from the sorting office when you have a moment?

Amazon don't have sorting offices or depots, you can collect from, do they?

I know you can ask for things to be delivered to their lockers/a post office or shop but I thought you had to make that choice before you picked delivery, and if you didn't and specify an address that's where it goes to, if it can't be delivered they try again or it goes back to amazon.

Can she send you the tracking info so you can see roughly when they're coming? I usually get a 2hr window with amazon.

She's being a bit silly to expect you to wait in all day!

LadyDanburysHat · 22/12/2025 09:16

It is unfair of her to ask you to stay in for it. You have plans and should not have to cancel them for this.

Everleigh13 · 22/12/2025 09:17

Go out when you need to go out. You shouldn’t have to stay in. It’s just one of those things.

grinchmcgrinchface · 22/12/2025 09:18

Whose the parcel with? Most places give you a window surely she can tell you the window time? Yanbu its a kind thing to do but not when it puts on you house arrest all day.

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 22/12/2025 09:23

Amazon usually give you a time frame for when the item will be delivered. Could you ask her to tell you what that is so you have a two hour window to try and hang about rather than having to wait in all day?

dottiedodah · 22/12/2025 09:29

I would just say thank you but you havent time to wait all day! 3 days before the big day what is she thinking They usually try a few times .If you miss it then its one of those things

BlackCat14 · 22/12/2025 09:45

You’re not ungrateful at all, it’s kind of her but she really cant expect you to just sit around at home all day- especially three days before Christmas! She is being a bit ridiclous. What did you respond to her saying?

I totally get where you’re coming from with things like this- this is our first Christmas with our baby and out of nowhere yesterday three friends messaged asking when we’re free before Christmas as they have presents for our baby and want to pop round. I was a bit frazzled yesterday anyway, but I felt so stressed over it as we are so busy and I just don’t have time now! We were out all day yesterday, today partner is working and I’m visiting family, Wednesday we have parents arriving to stay, and tomorrow I plan to do the final shop of last minute/fresh bits, and prep all my veg and get the table ready etc. I don’t have time for three separate visitors but just felt so bad saying no, when yhe nature of their visits is so kind!

ApolloandDaphne · 22/12/2025 09:52

I agree that she should be able to tell you the window for delivery once it is confirmed it is on its way. Ask her to keep and eye out for the message and let you know.

Isayitasitis · 22/12/2025 09:52

Ask her to get it redirected to a delivery spot like a petrol station or deliver to a neighbour.

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inkyspells · 22/12/2025 09:56

She’s told me it’s between 10-1 today so I guess il just wait and hope it’s closer to 10 than 1
She only lives 15 mins away …would of been easier to drive to hers for it 🤣

OP posts:

SilverPink · 22/12/2025 10:06

If she only lives 15 minutes away why didn’t she have it delivered to hers then ask when would be convenient for her to deliver it to you? Sounds like she didn’t want to have to wait in for the parcel, so left you with the inconvenience.

DoubleHardBastard · 24/12/2025 12:09

What did it end up being, OP? Did you get it between 10 and 1?

JudgeBread · 24/12/2025 12:15

Is Amazon delivering it or is it with another courier? I used to be an Amazon driver and if someone left a note on the door saying "sign it for me and put it in X" I always would 🤷‍♀️ we obviously weren't meant to but most drivers really, really want to deliver their full complement of packages so they don't have to return to depot. Depends how by the book your driver is whether they actually will, but worth a shot if it doesn't show up before you have to leave.

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