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How can I be polite in this situation?

30 replies

BeckhamsBalls · 21/12/2025 19:46

You will probably say just say bugger off but in a nutshell, I have a friend of a long time, very into politics, very intelligent, knows about the going ons in the world, avid news reader etc.

i don’t share all her views and I can usually dodge with just sending something back unrelated when she sends me videos about political parties, the awfulness of trump etc - but…. She believes all religions are bad, stated every war etc and Christianity is the worst so she keeps sending me these videos basically calling out Christianity,

now, I have tried the, we don’t agree, or the my thoughts are different but she isn’t getting it and I don’t want to cut her off for various reasons but I am so fed up,

it’s Christmas, I believe in god, I don’t preach about it, most people probably don’t know this about me, it’s very personal and I’ve had a lot of comfort from my faith, now she is upping the number of videos she is sending and I want a polite way to say please stop without her going crazy….

i should just say F off but I’m not like that, I just want a way to say please stop sending me stuff about religion it’s actually really frustrating and I never send her stuff back related to the topic.

anyone have any advice?

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MotherofPufflings · 21/12/2025 19:49

What do you think would happen if you just asked her to please stop sending you these videos?

FionnulaTheCooler · 21/12/2025 19:49

Can you just mute her for a few days until she gets bored not getting a response and stops?

Heckate · 21/12/2025 19:49

Just tell her firmly not to.

ZippyPeer · 21/12/2025 19:50

Send her a message saying 'this stuff isn't for me, please stop sending, look forward to seeing you at xx event'
Done.

If she keeps sending you things, say 'hey I know you like this stuff, but I've said before I don't want it, would appreciate if you'd respect my wishes.' then be normal about it.

If after that you get more stuff you need to reconsider the friendship as this person is being inconsiderate

DramaQueenlady · 21/12/2025 19:50

Can't you just say, I dont like the videos youre sending. Please stop. I understand we all have different beliefs, you have yours and I have mine. So I dont want to receive them again.

Hopefully she will have enough respect for you to stop. Good luck

AwfullyGood · 21/12/2025 19:51

If it were me, I text her saying "our friendship is unlikely to survive any more conversations or videos about religion or politics. Shall we agree we all have different views and move on".

If she values the friendship, she'll drop it.

If she doesn't, she's no loss.

TheatricalLife · 21/12/2025 19:52

I'd send her a message saying that you don't watch any of the videos she is sending as they upset you so please stop. Then delete everything she sends without opening or watching.

MyLimeGuide · 21/12/2025 19:52

Just send her what you have put in this post. Her behaviour is ridiculous you need to tell her.

LiftAndLetLift · 21/12/2025 19:52

"Not another one! You know I'm not comfortable receiving these, please stop." And add an eye roll emoji.

ilovelamp82 · 21/12/2025 19:52

"I respect you to not argue with your beliefs, why is it that you don't respect me enough to argue with mine, especially when I've asked you not to. I don't want this to affect our friendship, but it's too much, please can you stop?"

If she doesn't, back away.

sallymonella · 21/12/2025 19:53

Just delete them and never think of them again.

TinselTitts · 21/12/2025 19:53

Bloody hell she sounds like a bore!

Just tell her you're not interested in any of it and to just keep texts to light conversation, or not to bother.

You're quite capable of watching the news yourself.

174ghxt · 21/12/2025 20:02

Yes, boring and overbearing and obsessive. You're going to have to be firm. If she has a sense of humour you could start sending her videos about jellyfish. Say, "I have about as much interest in videos on politics and religion as you have in jellyfish. Please stop!"

Purlant · 21/12/2025 20:06

I have a friend like this (opposite though, all the videos are from the DM). I like him as a friend, don’t agree with some of his views, I just don’t look at the videos or comment on it.

intrepidpanda · 21/12/2025 20:06

I dont care how close a friend you are if you send a load of rubbish I dont want to see you will get blocked on SM.
If a direct message, do not reply at all.
If in person you say I actually have faith snd find your comments offensive. I love you but we need to bin this as a topic.

ShesTheAlbatross · 21/12/2025 20:09

I don’t think there’s any need to be polite to someone who is being very rude.

SoUncertain · 21/12/2025 20:14

That's so rude! I'm not religious but it's offensive to someone who is, such as yourself.

Say "how would you like someone trying to shove their religion down your throat? How do you think I feel with you trying to turn me against mine?".

Danceparty55 · 21/12/2025 20:18

I am a Christian and had a very evangelistic atheist friend. I had to be warm but firm and said something like “I have a faith and I’d love you to show me the respect I show you, by not sending videos about something that we have very different views about”. They got a bit flustered and annoyed but I was kind and breezy and we have managed to maintain a friendship and she has stopped the (fairly offensive) videos. I hated having to do it but it was needed.

Endofyear · 21/12/2025 20:21

Why do you have to be polite? She's not being polite by bombarding you with her opinions 🤷‍♀️ if you want to be polite, can you not just say 'please stop sending me videos, I'm not interested in them and don't want to receive them'. That's perfectly polite and if she ignores your polite request then I would block her. You can maintain a friendship with someone who respects your views and requests but I really wouldn't bother otherwise.

Hankunamatata · 21/12/2025 20:23

I'd stop looking at her messages
Or if im feeling super petty start sending very religious videos back

MyMoneyIsAllSpent · 21/12/2025 20:23

In return send her YT videos from Chuck Missler. ‘Sevens in the bible’ is particularly good. Or send her Truth is Christ videos. :)

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BeckhamsBalls · 21/12/2025 21:05

MotherofPufflings · 21/12/2025 19:49

What do you think would happen if you just asked her to please stop sending you these videos?

I already have in a nice way and said oh we don’t agree

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BeckhamsBalls · 21/12/2025 21:05

FionnulaTheCooler · 21/12/2025 19:49

Can you just mute her for a few days until she gets bored not getting a response and stops?

Tried, she just keeps sending…

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BeckhamsBalls · 21/12/2025 21:06

ZippyPeer · 21/12/2025 19:50

Send her a message saying 'this stuff isn't for me, please stop sending, look forward to seeing you at xx event'
Done.

If she keeps sending you things, say 'hey I know you like this stuff, but I've said before I don't want it, would appreciate if you'd respect my wishes.' then be normal about it.

If after that you get more stuff you need to reconsider the friendship as this person is being inconsiderate

I totally agree, it’s not like I ever send anything regarding her views back, or pointing out how I don’t agree…

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DramaQueenlady · 21/12/2025 21:15

Can't you just say, I dont like the videos youre sending. Please stop. I understand we all have different beliefs, you have yours and I have mine. So I dont want to receive them again.

Hopefully she will have enough respect for you to stop. Good luck